My wife and I have been married for 3 months. She thought I was going to be working late last night, but I went out with some guys to the casino. I ended up winning $150, but then I blew all that money plus another $300 at a local strip club. She was expecting me home around 8:30 last night, and I didn't get in until after 2:00 AM. I crawled into bed and she immediately awoke yelling and screaming of where have I been and why I reeked like cigarette smoke. She then made me go sleep on the couch.
We didn't talk at all this morning, and I think she is over-reacting. I don't know how I am going to explain about the money... any suggestions?
2007-10-31 03:27:42 · 59 answers · asked by GCG 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honey i only have one thing to say, what goes around comes around. how would you react if she did the same thing, ok i have more. your a married man now and you have no business in a strip club you adulteress *** hole. obviously you don't have what it takes to be a strong man and a good husband, it;s only been three months and your already screwing up, wow. your a prize to be had. and let me guess, the friends you went with were all single too... wow some friends. if they were your friends they would have had some respect for your wife and made you either go home or at least give her a call so she could at least be pissed and come get your sorry ***. they have no respect for you or your wife and the marriage your about to lose all because you want to go out and pretend to be someone your not anymore. this is how marriage works stupid, you vowed to love and honor her. where was your love and honor for her while you were putting her hard earned money yes hers, beacuse she is married to you, in some sluts underwear, and in the slots at the casino. you vowed to never hurt her, don't you think her worry about you hurt her, you vowed to be honest and faithful, you lied to her about where you were and you spent the night lusting over women.. you vowed to love her till death do you part, well i hope she holds up that end and kills you for what youve done, you soiled on your brand new marriage. you better ask god for mercy because if you were my husband i wouldn't show you no mercy what so ever, oh but wait you've started something now and it's her turn, and hell has no fury like a woman scorned does.
2007-10-31 03:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Most of the answers are right although harsh with the name calling. Never the less. I don't exactly do well to my husband screwing up with prizes or gift I don't like the flower thing and if you do try to buy her forgiveness then that means you can do what ever you want just give her something after or before. If you really do feel bad for what you did then why did you in the first place? Didn't you feel bad about it at the time? If no, then your just sorry you got in trouble not for what you actually did. I know if it were my husband I would be mad mostly for making me worry and going to see and give money to half naked women nothing screams he will cheat on me more than that. So don't lie tell her everything even if she will be very mad. If you don't and she finds out which she probably will, she will be more pissed and then all trust is gone for a long time . she might also try to get you back. So..... Good luck maybe divorce.
2015-06-02 12:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jaynee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with each other in total? Normally a guy r husband would call their wife/ GF if they were going out somewhere after work. If you won the 150 then you blew that plus 300 at a strip club even I would be a little (well not a little) upset at my husband. But you have to think of where she is coming from too... She did not know where you were and I am sure she tried to call you, but you might not have heard your phone. I would just tell her the truth was it with you and friends of yours at work? I don't know I would only be mad that you came home at 2 A.M. not the fact that you spent money If you had it to spend. If she loves you she will get over it but as the people above said Good luck.. Don't lie to her!!!!
2007-10-31 03:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by IcKyViCkY 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What you have done is betrayed her trust in her. The money is the least of your problems because she will be more angry that you felt the need to go gambling and then to a strip club.
You have given her the impression that you don't get from her what you need at home. She will think you are out looking for women even if it is not true.
You could have spared yourself a lot of grief if you just called her and told her you were going out with the guys. She is only asking you to respect her feelings as she respects yours.
As for the money you might as well tell her the truth. If you are smart you will apologize and tell her you made a mistake not letting her know where you were. Tell her the guys asked you along and the time just flew by. Say you did not realize you were losing so much money and you are asking her forgiveness. She is still the most important thing in the world to you and you love her.
Good Luck
2007-10-31 03:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Man......why the heck did you get married in the first place? Think of it this way.............You have been married for 3 months, your wife calls and says she will be working late, then doesn't show up at home until the next day. She reeks of liquor and cigarette smoke and there is $300 missing from your bank account that she can't account for. Now, you tell me what would be your reaction. What a shi**y thing to do to your new wife. If you were going to continue your bachelor behavior, then you should have stayed a bachelor and not dragged some girl into a marriage that you weren't going to even try at. This girl has every right to kick you out on your a**. You better get some flowers 1st, then learn how to be a responsible husband.
2007-10-31 03:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Man, your wife has every right to be upset. Just lay low and let her get over it. Be honest with her. She is going to be so pissed!! If my husband did something like that I would have made him sleep on the couch too. Put yourself in her shoes for a minute or two and think about if you were expecting her to be coming home at a certain time and then was home in the early hours of the morning. I don't know what else to tell you but you are in a heap of heat with your woman. Good Luck and let this be a BIG lesson learned and never do it again.
2007-10-31 03:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tessie 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're a dumb a**. You'll be lucky if you don't have to sleep on the couch for the next year assuming she wants to stay married to you.
I suggest getting on your knees and begging for forgiveness, groveling, flowers and diamonds may help. Start by telling her that you did a very stupid thing, you lied to her and you know that you showed her a lot of disrespect. Then tell her everything straight out. It was wrong, it was stupid and you'll never do it again. Tell her you know that it will take some time for her to trust you again and you want to do what ever you can to make it better.
But, here's the kicker, you have to mean it because if you don't she'll know and then you may very well end up out on the street. If you don't really mean it then get a divorce now and let the poor girl get on with her life with someone that will respect her.
After that you probably will need to be her lap dog and do exactly what she says for the next year or so if you ever want her to forgive you.
Good luck. You're gonn'a need it.
2007-10-31 06:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by kirk1500 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes she has every right to be that mad at you. You lied about where you were going to be, you blew $300 on strippers, and you came in 5 1/2 hours after you said you would.
How does she know you weren't cheating? You can't say because I'm not because how does she know that. You've already proved that you are a lier, so why not also a cheater?
You need to come clean and promise never to do it again and then make sure you NEVER do it again.
2007-10-31 05:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. You are married now and you can't just think about what you want you have to think about her too. You should have just picked up the phone and called her. Going to a casino and a strip club is no big deal. My husband goes to a strip club whenever he wants and I know he is always coming home to me. You should have called her and told her the truth to begin with. I figure you didn't b/c you knew she'd guilt you into coming home instead of out w/ friends. I think you need to work on being considerate for her feelings too.
2007-10-31 03:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by just me 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh brother you are going to pay for this. I had a similar experience after being married for 8 months, and she still reminds me of it occasionally and we have been married for over 20 years. My advice is to come clean and admitt you messed up. I don't think it would have been so bad had you had called her to say you were going out with some friends. Now the strip club thing, I am sure you are going to catch 7 kinds of hell for that one...and rightfully so. $450 at a strip club???? Exactly how desperate are you to see naked women?? Have you heard of the internet or adult movies??
No matter how you look at it...YOU ARE GOING TO PAY SEVERLY FOR THIS ONE BROTHER!!!!!
FYI - your wife should be this upset and then some......
2007-10-31 04:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by priveledged i 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋