Obviously I'll do all the normal things, I'm a house husband anyway but what are the things that I should expect? What treats and food would she like.
2007-10-31 02:47:08 · 10 answers · asked by oldfart 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I had a hysterectomy back in 2000. She will be very sore for the first week and it will be hard for her to get up and down but back off and let her try and if she needs assistance she will let you know.
The doctors will want her up and walking like asap. The next day after surgery my doc had me up and walking the halls. Don't nag her about walking. I thought if one more person tells me to walk I will scream lol. She will need a laxative like Phillips milk of magnesia it will not cramp her.
Try to get her to drink water and if she likes fruit that would be a good snack. Ask her want she wants to get as snacks we all have different taste. I like popcorn also.
Don't smother her just be helpful. Let her watch TV whatever she likes. As I remember there is nothing on TV much so rent her some chick flicks if that is what she likes.
After a couple of weeks a manicure and a pedicure might me nice take her out for one. I went back to work after 4 weeks and I was cut and I was very weak after the first day.Personally I never felt like it made me less of a woman and I had everything removed. I am thrilled I never have to deal with that monthly thing again and I can go swimming and other fun things anytime I get ready whoo hoooo. I am confident in who and what I am. My identity has never been dependent on one part of my body.
My best advise is to pray for her and with her. Good luck and God bless
2007-10-31 03:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether the hysterectomy is an open hysterectomy in which they make an incision in the abdomen just above the pubic bone which is about 5 or 6 inches long or if she has a laproscopic hysterctomy in which they use 3 sometimes 4 very small abominal "poke holes" big enough to fit a scope in and remove the uterus or total vaginal in which they go up thru her vagina and remove her uterus.
Emotionally, this will be a difficult time for her because the uterus and the ovaries are her true womanhood. She may be emotional and a little upset or she may just be thrilled to have the whole thing gone especially if she has been experiencing pelvic pain.
I think she would enjoy anything you give her. I personally love chocolate-you know,,,,chocolate brownies, Hershey bars, chocolate chip cookies.
If her favorite snack is peanuts, buy her a can of peanuts.
Be gentle, tell her how much you love her and stroke her emotionally. Most women do not express how grieveful it is to have their uterus and/or ovaries removed simply because society has made it such an accepted surgical procedure. Its like if a man had his testicles removed. I bet that would cause a stir to tell a man you dont need these, so were just going to cut them off. It can be a very painful time and she may cry not only because of post operative pain, but because she is losing her abilitiy to carry a child and the parts of her body which make her a woman.
Do not pressure her for sex, wait for her to come around. She has to wait for 6 weeks post op to have sex anyways and most women arent interested that soon following a hysterectomy.
Maybe buy her some nice lotion and give her a back rub or I personally love it when a man puts lotion on my legs.
I think it would be nice if you would cook her favorite foods.
Just be her man.. Thats what she needs.
Good luck. You sound very kind
RN worked on surgical 4th floor x 3 yrs.
2007-10-31 03:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend's mum has just had one - She will be very sore the first week, and not able to move much, so help to the toilet, onto the bed etc will be essential.
After the initial period, she will have to start exercising by walking short distances and doing special exercises. Go with her on the walks.
Also, in the later stages, she will be sick of looking at the walls, so take her out for a coffee or small shopping trip once every few days - that's what my mums friend appreciates the most at the moment - I'm taking her out on Friday :)
Be aware that sleeping is going to be awkward for both of you, so try and let her get to sleep first. You will find that her appetite wont be up to much and as she will not be moving about much, try and give her fibre-rich foods to keep her bowel moving.
Hope this helps, and all goes well. I think you are a thoughtful and caring husband.
Also, DONT LET HER LIFT THINGS!!
2007-10-31 02:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Gem Gem 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
help her to the loo and in and out of bed and help her in to the bath and do all the things around the house and shopping spoil her make her feel loved and make sure she takes her painkillers and make sure she rests and make sure she does nor lift anything she is going to be in alot of pain at first just be there for her ohh and you sound a fab husband my husband did everything round the house after i had both our sons by c-section men like you and my husband are hard to find
2007-11-03 23:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by carol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything that Gem Gem said and also be aware of the mental trauma. Some women say they feel less feminine after this operation so be sure to tell her how beautiful she is and make her feel as special as possible. You obviously love her very much, she's a lucky lady to have you.
Goo dluck.
2007-10-31 03:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Xai 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there i had a hysterectomy two years ago and so this is from the heart.
when i came home from hosp i was very nervous of my stitches etc. i kept on asking hubby if they looked alright to him. i got very very tired. i needed help to get out of bed at first when i got home. i also needed help to get my pants and sox on....reassure her if this happens as it can be humiliating. help her wash her hair or at least offer to.
she might be weepy etc at first as well
surprise her the odd time, with flowers, a nice card etc.
good luck all the best to both of you. you will get back to normal after this.
2007-10-31 11:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Georgie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure, sorry for wasting an answer but I just wanted to comment how amazing and nice you sound. Good for you. Your wife is very lucky. I hope she gets better soon after the op. x
2007-10-31 02:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do all the house work, do everything! buy her nice things to eat and dring and be nice to her. that's enough
2007-10-31 03:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do everything for her. make her feel loved. take all that she might dish out at you, and love her anyways. good luck
2007-10-31 02:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by para_servirle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO ALL YOU POSSIBLY CAN FOR HER @ MAKE HER REST...SHE MUST NOT LIFT A THING
2007-11-01 04:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋