What can you learn from that time?
Can you do anything to recreate that level of happiness?
2007-10-31 02:31:04 · 10 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When my husband and I first got together we did it all the time. Muliple times a day most of the time. But after having kids and a big move and all the stress all of it brings it isn't like it was. I do miss and wish it could be that way again. But we still have a good sex life. We are back up to doing it everyday not multiple though. We know that when the kids get older things will be different but until then we make due with our situation. We just make time for each other and make sure we maintain a certain level of intimacy.
2007-11-05 05:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is what a happy marriage is based upon. We remember the times when we were at our best and happiest, and we try to recreate that exact thing each day. That's what keeps the love alive-we keep chasing that feeling again and again!
2007-10-31 10:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was at my best when I was younger and in my 20's and 30's...
I was healthy then, was not in debt, and I was working and most family members were alive...
Now that I am in my 50's, I look back and think where did the time go???
I am no longer healthy and am considering more surgery to help my pain...
Sex hurts when you have pain...
Many family members have passed away and that makes me very sad...
My mom is in a nursing home with Alsheimers and doesn't remember much...
I am paying on a pre-paid funeral plan to keep expenses down when she passes away...
I have been out of work over 5 years now because I am disabled due to back and leg problems dealing with pain...
So all of these human nature problems causes me to be either depressed or indifferent to sex...
I am trying to change that of course, because I still love my husband and I would like to have sex with him and not hurt so much...
I am going to a doctor that thinks if I try the Medtronic device that is called a stimulater, it will help my pain like it did for the famous comedian, Jerry Lewis...
So I am about to give that a try and if that doesn't work, I will keep trying different medications...
I told you all of this info in case you are or know someone who needs help with pain and that's why they don't have sex...
I am trying to change things for me and remember the earlier years to try to recapture the love and excitement in my life...
I remember candles burning, flowers in vases, champagne in beautiful glasses, fires in a fireplace, warm rugs and blankets to snuggle up in, cozy nights with my husband sitting in each others arms together...
I am really working on bringing this about again because it has been far too long since we did anything to recapture our love...
It is a concentrated effort in my life and I have to actually work on bringing about the right and good feelings again...
It doesn't just happen...
You must work at it...
I hope all people can achieve this with their lives as well...
I think most folks would be a lot happier too if this were to take place...
2007-10-31 15:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ALLLL the time. WOW I wish I were still that hottie!
Sure.. I could recreate that level, but I'm not sure it would feel the same. It may be disappointing.
2007-10-31 18:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by royrox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do I ever?
How about every day? I think you can and should keep that level of sex going. Not 'making love'. Keep having sex, and don't let the advent of children keep you from that. I wish my wife hadn't become a mother. Don't get me wrong, she's an awesome mother, but now I come in fourth place, and she's forgotten that she's a wife. She doesn't think about sex anymore, she's said as much. It sucks.
My one piece of advice is: don't forget you were a wife first, that when you got married one of the perks was that you wouldn't have to go out and try to get sex. Keep your husband thinking he's number one in your mind, and he'll reciprocate.
Oh, and sit on his face once in a while and let yourself come.
2007-10-31 09:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by lovinglifeina69 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First few yrs of marriage.Have faith and trust in ur life-partner and u will travel through same experience.
2007-10-31 09:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been alone and celibute for 4 years so looking back is all I have!Good luck.
2007-10-31 09:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really recommend this book, it's worked wonders for my love life!
2007-11-01 09:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now.
You get out of it what you put into it, that's my advice.
2007-10-31 09:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
everyday, right now
2007-10-31 09:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋