Whenever my bf starts playing about with me i get really wet, really quickly.
It's not as if I'm enjoying it that much when he first starts, but i get really wet!
It's slightly annoying esp as he prefers me on top.
He doesn't mind and doesn't actually seem bothered in the slightest, in fact he likes it but it makes me feel dirty and disgusting.
We've tried lots of foreplay, orgasming before sex etc but all that seems to make it worse.
I know it's better to be lubed than not but i just wish there was less of it!
It really makes me feel uncomfortable, so is there anything i can do without him knowing?
We have only recently started having sex so will this decrease do you reckon, over time?
Thanks in advance!
2007-10-31 00:51:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You are not dirty or disgusting, so please don't feel so! I'm not going to tell you how old I was when it first happend, but the first time I had an orgasm, I thought I was actually p......g myself and the sheets were that wet I thought I had! It's a natural process and if you have only recently started having sex, then lucky old you for having a b/f that can get you like that! He should be proud of himself (but don't tell him, you don't want him getting all bigheaded!).
Try taking things slower; go so far; stop, start again, stop. It may help. You're only young, and of course, it will decrease as you get older or after having babies, but havingyour own natural "flow" has got to be better than visiting the chemist for a tube of KY Jelly! No, I don't, thank you very much! Enjoy it while you can - the pair of you.
On a light note - if it's that bad, put some brightly coloured paper or plastic fishes on the bed and buy him a snorkel, wet suit & flippers! A free diving holiday that he knew nothing about and he didn't even need a passport!
There is nothing worse than a dry ***** - so have a towel to hand for when you have a soggy moggy!
Don't worry. Have a shower or a bath after, together, if you wish. I'd definately suggest that anyway. (No, not the "together" bit necessarily, the shower or bath bit), because unfortunately, if, after having sex, making love or whatever you wish to call it, you don't wash properly , you can become a bit on the "smelly" side, later. Natural odour or not, I don't care, but it smells "fishy". Men also have a tendency to make crude jokes or comments about it too, but it's the combination of their fluids and the female fluids that cause it - we cannot produce it on our own - and you definately do not want to walk around smelling like Grimsby docks on a hot summer morning or have the local feline community following you down the road!
2007-10-31 02:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by CHRISTINE O 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say...there's nothing you can do about it. It's natural. Some women are just like that. Trust me - some women would kill to have that happen to them as they're fairly dry in the heat of the moment.
Most men actually like that, so just relax.
As far as taking things slower or starting and stopping, you could try it to see what happens, but I think that once you start the foreplay, there's really no way to stop it. I doubt it will decrease the more you have sex. It's just how your body is made and how it reacts to stimulation.
Please don't feel dirty! It's a part of life and a part of being a female. You should own it, sister! :-D
Good luck!
2007-10-31 03:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Other than drying it off occasionally, I don't think there's anything you can do. I know you're probably sick of hearing it but being wet is a good thing. Apparently sex with condoms dry some people out more (well it was posted earlier today), dunno if you want to try that or not. And yeah it's possible it might decrease if you get used to being aroused...maybe.
2007-10-31 01:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is just your bodys natural reaction to being turned on, so dont try and stop it as its part of the pleasure.
Most guys love a woman who is really wet, we find it a huge turn on. I think maybe you need to get it right in your head that its perfectly OK, very sexy in fact and not dirty at all, it makes us glad to be straght men!
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2014-09-13 02:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't think there is anything wrong or dirty about it...it is just how your body reacts to sexual arousal. Some women have trouble getting wet and some get very wet. It is a normal variation of response to sexual arousal.
If your boyfriend likes it...go with the flow (no pun intended) and have fun!
2007-10-31 01:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by tlldob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-14 15:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-14 00:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on top and ride him like a cowgirl !
Really, if you're boyfriend likes it, enjoy it !
There really is no way to control it, except not to have sex or get aroused.....and that will kill a relationship
Maybe you should rent a video that has female squirters in it and maybe you will realize there are a lot of us out there and GUYS LOVE IT !
2007-10-31 01:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by mudmommy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal and it means you're having a good time! It will decrease a bit when you're not in the "honeymoon" stage anymore, but enjoy this while it's here.
2007-10-31 01:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by thalesgirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋