While I was away from school y'day and my pathetic teacher told the classroom that I gave her a really bad rating on one of those teacher rating sites. And it’s not even true. personally I reckon she should have talked abt it with me 1st but hey that what she's like. anyway today 2 girls in my class told me about it before she did. watt pissed me off was that a guy in that class who I consider a close friend, closer than the 2 girls, didn’t bother to mention it. and women's intuition tells me he did not forget. I feel soooo betrayed because I know I’d have his back if the situation were reversed. and the fact that he kept this from me says he doesn’t think that much of our friendship and he rather take her side, a teacher he's known since Feb. this yea rather than mine a friend he's bonded with for the past 2 years. I feel betrayed.
2007-10-29 23:51:18 · 18 answers · asked by εϊзSmart Cookieεϊз 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You must be high school because this sounds like a lame question.
First off, if your teacher is discussing your personal preferences on an evaluation with the classroom then that should be discussed with the principal because there has to be an invasion of privacy here.
Second, who cares what some dumb thinks that you probably won't even care about next year? Let alone when you start college (there are much better looking guys there).
2007-10-30 00:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I truelly believe it was unethical of your teacher to mention to the class what she did. I am a teacher and I would never ever put any of my students in an awkward position and bringother members of the class into it.
I would also really assess your friendship with this young man. Do you think there were other "warning" signs indicating that your friendship was not as strong as your thought it was.
I was betrayed several times when I was in high school. That was ten years ago. I learned to move on and become a stronger and better person by handling the situation as adult like and mature minded as possible. When you leave school all will be forgotten once you embark on new adventures and enter university/college.
I attended my ten year highschool reunion two weeks ago and all hurts were forgiven and everything left in the past as bygons. It takes strength courage and a good heart to forgive, but forgeting can be the tough part. Learn from this mistake sweetie and as you get older you will manage to read people's signs and gestures and get to know how they really are and who they realy are.
Best of luck to you and may God Be on your side always :)
2007-10-30 00:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by ANASTASIA_NIKOLAIEVNA_ROMANOVA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to be mad at him. There could be legitimate reasons why he didn't tell you.
1. He did not hear the conversation with the teacher.
2. He did hear it but did not want to upset you and probably figured it was no big deal because no one really likes the teacher anyway.
Talk with him about the problem first and give him a chance to explain his side before you lose a really good friend. Good luck and God bless
2007-10-30 00:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by karaokediva1960 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings of betrayal, and I think I would feel some of that if I were in your situation too.
Not because he didn't pass the info on to you- Men don't like to discuss such unpleasant interpersonal details, or pass on bad news that they think isn't Earth shatteringly important...that is the Mars vs Venus thing. But I would feel hurt that he didn't do or say anything in my defense, when the teacher dissed me in my absence!
I bet your male friend was afraid to speak up in your defense out of a concern that if he did, the teacher might start to give him bad marks, or start spreading lies about him too, whenever he isn't in class!
I don't think he meant to "take her side," rather, he just chickened out to protect himself. So it isn't that he likes the teacher more than you, it means he likes himself more! He's selfish.
The best way to push through this is probably to stand up in front of the whole class and tell them the truth, even if it is "disruptive." And if she sends you to the principal, tell the principal that she lied about you and that he can ask the other students who saw it happen.
As for how to get over the betrayal, tell yourself that you misjudged him and are better off without him in your life. You didn't realize he was so selfish and lacked guts!
Now that you know how he acts under fire, you are actually better off without him. You are free quit wasting your time on him, and you can now find someone brave & considerate enough to stick by you when the going gets rough! :)
2007-10-30 00:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel and/or think that your guy friend should have told you about it then talk to him.
Don't confront him about it just tell him the truth just like you did in this question.
If you respect him and like your friendship with him don't lose the two years invested--talk.
Also--talk to the teacher as well. Make sure she understands you weren't the one who gave her the bad rating. If you can prove it, all the better.
Talking about things really helps. You're brave enough to put this question out to strangers. Now talk to people you know.
Let me know if this works.
2007-10-30 00:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by vitty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feeling of betrayal. You would have "had his back," and your two other girl friends did. Why didn't he?
Without knowing this guy, however, I think some of it has to be sadly chalked up to the guy vs. girl differences. Guys are very "out of sight, out of mind" many times with issues. Many times (much to their error and our chagrin), it isn't...they just don't realize it. To them, it's over, and it's done. It's not to say that they never think about it or lament, but to them, it's like, "What more is there to talk about?"
And that is the other thing: talking about it. Ever noticed that men don't like to talk about problems? Especially ones that aren't easily solved/emotion-based (like this one)? If you feel he didn't forget (and you're probably right), he might have had no idea on how to bring it up. And, then once he did, what to say about it. More times then not, men will then just shy away from the subject completely. It's not right, but it can be the frustrating truth.
If this is something that hurts you deeply and you cannot just let it go, you need to talk to this guy about it. Without making him defensive, just say that you are hurt and wish he had said something to you, that it felt like he didn't have your back. If he's as good of a friend as you say, he should be receptive and hopefully you two can come to an understanding.
Best wishes to you both!
2007-10-30 00:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
k your teacha was soooo offkey 4 sayin that and i agree she should have talked to u first tell her how you feel that you found out from your friends first which made you abit concerned that she was talkin about u behind ur back. This boy is just playing with you have you ever let him down in the past???? if not then tell him how you feel and why u feel this way. You never know maybe he realy likes you and is jealous of someone that you like???? talk to him and things will sort their selves out trust me good luck!
2007-10-30 00:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggestions:
1. Write question clearly.
2. I understood somthing like this.
When u weren't at school, your teacher spoke bad of you. Two of your not too close friend(girl) informed you about this but your close friend (boy) didn't. You think your boy friend betryed you.
3. If this is what you wanted to say, then the answer is:
The friend (boy) didn't betray you. Its boys nature, not to tell such simple and unmattering things. Moreever if you weren't told about the incident by anyone, you wouldn't have to bother all about it and things would go right. But your two girl friends put you in problem.
So point goes to your boy friend than your girl friend.
2007-10-30 00:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rah-the genius 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 08:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to give the website address out to anyone that disbelieves you.
Go to your teacher and tell her that you found out what she said and ask her to apologise or make a statement in class about it.
Go to the principal and make a complaint.
If you are truly in the right then they will agree with you.
Good luck
2007-10-29 23:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by FawneMine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋