Help me understand why this is the story of my love life? I have so many fans..dying to get my love...yet I don't want these guys. Then, crazily as it seems I fall for a guy...and he doesn't feel the same way. Why must I live in this torture when I see so many other couples who have found mutual love? I'm not a teenager...I'm a mature adult (over 30). Any views that could help me would really be appreciated. Thanks.
2007-10-29 22:53:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is what makes love so special. You can't just find it around the corner. I know it is frustrating but waiting for the one that feels like you do is definitely worth it. One thing I have learned is to not try to hard on the ones that aren't interested and open the door for someone who may be.
2007-10-29 23:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Primrose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll do my best here but it is a tricky subject.
Firstly for every loved-up couple you see, there are two or three other couples going through the divorce courts.
Secondly most people cant describe their ideal mate, but do know what would be a no no.
Many of us decide we want a partner for lots of different reasons, and once someone comes along that isn't so bad, we sort of overlook a slight bad sign in a trade off for a trait they have which we admire. Afterall none of us are perfect.
Once the initial relationship kicks off, then love may develop and go on developing until the shine fades a little, but then you move on to the next stage in love, whereby you value and treasure your relationship, but the butterflies have gone.
The hard part is choosing someone to get started with. I would say that looks play a big part in the initial contact. After that it is a juggling act to sort out what is fabulous, what is ok and what is not so good.
If you have many admirers, then you probably are an attractive woman and so you can afford to be picky. A less attractive person would have to settle more quickly perhaps for someone paying them attention as their opportunities would be less.
Experiencing relationship break ups usually teach us what to avoid or look for in our next encounter (although visually we usually go for the same thing - more or less).
Generally humans looking for love sort of dance around each other in the hope that we may make a good connection, but from experience you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.
Maybe you put less value on someone that appears to be keen on you and would rather go hunt and chase until you do the catching, but that is a risky business and there are lots that wont be caught and prefer to do the running themselves.
As in all things really, we have to find a balance and if you are keen to be a couple that propably would be easy for you with any number of people. You have elected however to wait for the right person and I can tell you that this person will walk into your life when you least exect it.
They say there is a match for everyone, and whilst they may not tick all your boxes, you will love them for trying.
2007-10-30 09:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the chase you know what you can't have you want then once you get it wasn't at all what you thought it would be. All the couples you see who walk around kissing and can't keep their hands off each other, did you ever think they just met or they both are married to different people and having an affair. Wouldn't it be nice if the passion last forever just think no more cheating and no more pain and heart break, life would be wonderful.
2007-10-30 06:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am the same way. If there's a good man standing on top of my head, butt naked, with a bow tie on, I can't see him. But as soon as Johnny Broke Stupid smile at me, I'm in love. So this is what I started doing. If I talk to a person that like some of the things that I like, seem to be boring, doesn't need me to fix him up, pick him up, dress him up , sober him up, shave him down and teach him to speak then I give him more of my time. At first I stayed to myself and try to work on... What the hell was my problems. I found out that I needed to fix people. I needed to help people. So I fixed me,helped myself and thru that I learned... you can't help or fix anybody that doesn't want it for themselves. Find out what you are lacking. Then go for the total opposite of what you choose now.
2007-10-30 06:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Famous or not, which I was not when I was in high school, there were many guys I would have loved to go out with, but they were all taken, and I learned to live with it! There was nothing I could do, so I just waited for them to break up and they never did.
My suggestion would be to just take it day by day, and not look for love and when you do not look for love, it will walk into your life! :)
2007-10-30 06:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋