Do you neglect your kids?

Question

do you agree (and I dont mean just the Pro McCanns) that this is a pretty awful assumption to make about somebody just because of their opinions?

stormy Im sorry but saying that a group of people neglect their children purely because of their views, is an awful accusation!
There is no amount of justification that can make it right

lipstick your right everything does seem clear to you
In a sense that you dont seem to have opinons of your own and just agree with what the mob has to say

My question was do you agree thats its an awful assumption to make about a STRANGER.

You answered my question the only way you know how
Thanks

Answer 1

NO

Answer 2

It is an awful assumption Lisa,i know most of the (PRO)McCanns don't agree with the neglect side of the case anyway.
Basically i don't care what the parents do or don't do now,they can spend the money however they want to, and do and go as they please.
All i want now is to here the news that the poor child has been found , either alive or dead.
Closure on this case is what is needed now.xx

Answer 3

To accuse somone of negligence or neglect on their opinion - well if you can alter the opinion before they act on it, that is fine, if they actually neglect their children or elderly relative - that is neglect irrespective of their opinion. It may seem a horrid thing to do - but allowing them to behave in a way that eventually leads to injury or death to someone else and imprisonment for the person who thought it was "fine" is far worse surely?

If someone leaves babies, young children or elderly relatives (with impaired thoughts or movement) unattended in a position where they could not help themselves should their be fire, flood or explosion. Yes that is neglect even if it was your friend doing it you would have to tackle it - and I have, directly with friends. Leaving children or the elderly in the bath on their own when they are too small to climb out. Leaving them unattended in a back garden with a garden pond or a paddling pool.

Whatever their opinion these things are wrong and as a Nurse I have a duty to address these issues when they come my way - check my Code of Conduct if you don't believe me...

People who hold opinions based on the fact that their risk assessment is poor need enlightenmet. If you leave the children unattended whilst you nip to the corner shop - you could be run over, mugged or just be taken seriously ill out of the blue and be unable to communicate your childrens plight. Do you take ID with you so your family can be traced should you be in a coma? Your house may catch on fire, a vehicle may drive into it, the electricity could short out (one of my relatives went into their childs bedroom and the switched off light fitting was on fire), the gas could explode, an intruder may break in, the children could wander out, there could be a flash flood (Boscastl) and so many other things it just isn't worth the risk because these things do happen to someone, somewhere, everyday. Puts a new light on someones opinion that it is safe to leave your children or elderly relatives unattended doesn't it?

Answer 4

Some people that accuse the pro McCanns of this, are going over the top, as they don't know anyone on here, but in theory I think they mean that if you see no wrong in leaving little ones alone, then you would do it yourself.
Anyway, some mothers spend longer on here than with the kids, that's hardly the best parenting.


*edit* I didn't try to justify it, just explain it.

Answer 5

No, i don't and you're right...Its an awful accusation to make about anyone.

Edit: Stormy, i hardly think anyone condoned / excused the McCanns leaving their babies alone. It was wrong and we know it & they know it now. An accusation against them for neglect is justifiable & Social Services have met with them accordingly. I agree that those who spend more time on the net than with their babies are also guilty of lax parenting.

Answer 6

no Ive never neglected my kids and i never would,and can i just say that if it had been any other person who had left there children like the mccanns did,then the social services would have been on their backs and the kids would have been on the at risk register,so the mccanns should have been treated the same way

Answer 7

If they are innocent, than yes it is an awful assumption. Then I would call it an irresponsible mistake. They are paying a high price. And since non of us knows whether they are guilty or not, we should hold back with our assumptions and opinions.

Answer 8

I think every parent does in some way,reasons being not devoting enough time for them because of work commitments or emotional dis function.Its a tricky question to ask because as a parent I hope I don't but still feel guilty that in someway my kids may feel that I am.I have thoughts about this daily and do the best I can as a parent and still feel as though they might be missing out on something.

Answer 9

People jump to conclusions all the time,every day, about hundreds of things.

The answer to the question 'do you neglect your kids - is no I don't, not as far as I'm aware anyway.

If you've been accused of this, then only you know the true answer. Either you have a clear conscience or you don't. End of.

Answer 10

My daughter told me this morning that I am "over protective". My younger daughter and her friends were having a discussion about the right age to have a baby. Her point was that older mothers "do things properly - they take care of their children" compared to the other child who loved his younger mother "because she's never there and I can do what I want". (I am not criticising younger mothers, just repeating the conversation.)
So I'd have to say, that according to my own children, my kids are not neglected.

Answer 11

Do you seriously believe that anyone would answer your question with "yes, i own up to neglecting my kids".