so strange my husband cheated we are getting divorce ,the thing is he has moved in with his girlfeind calling her his fiancee.he hurt me so badly,but i am moving on.our son adores him and he is so affected by his father not showing up,he calles his father and begs him to pck him up but my ex tells him he is so busy he does not even call the littel kid(5 years)??yes i envy him he has everything his soon to be bride adores him ,she gives him money and she will make him a new business..i ve known that she is like a doormate,she never complains even if he treats her like s++++ and my son adores him even when he is not arround,moved with her to a bigger house ,i think she paid the money but it is his house,ALL THE THINGS ARE TURNING IN HIS BENEFIT WHILE i work so hard in my job that surely satisfy my need and my sin s, we have small house and I AM LONELY AND AM NOT ABLE TO TRUST ANYONE
2007-10-29 21:15:05 · 11 answers · asked by mony y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont envy someone who is obviously not capable of loving anyone. He doesnt love his son and he doesnt love the lady he is with. He is just using her til someone even dumber comes along. He isnt treating anyone humanely. You may be struggling but at least your capable of loving someone.
2007-10-29 21:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The old saying what goes around comes around. He will get his. It may look ideal now, but down the road what will he have. If he keeps treating his son like he is, his son will eventual not have anything to do with him. I know it is hard, but move on, make a life for yourself. Sue for allimony and go back to school. Do something for you!
When you are ready, there are plenty of men out there.
Good luck!
2007-10-30 04:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just see what happen next, he will have nothing for you to envy on some years from now, if he continue with his attitude.
By the way, you will end in the same way, if you continue with your current attitude, just forgive and forget him for the time being, and pray for both your and his happiness.
You may think that this is ridiculous, but it is not for him, but for yourself, you may think that you want him to suffer now, but when you are wise enough to understand, you will understand that there is no pleasure to see the pain experienced by any other living beings.
May the Lord guide you to His way.
2007-10-30 05:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by seed of eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You envy someone that uses people? hurts people? isn't a good parent to an adorable child? doesn't work for what they have? Come on! you are a great parent and love your child deeply. Take this man to court, get the child support you need for your child and move on with your life. start dating, get a hobby, get out there and the best revenage is doing so because someday this woman will see what a jerk your ex is and throw him out on his you know what and you will have your child who respects you and loves you.
2007-10-30 07:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are feeling that way because you have allowed your emotions to swallow you.. move on and leave the hang ups behind... if it looks like he got everything right now, who knows what happens tomorrow? the world is round...concentrate on your kid and your work but do not forget yourself... you deserve to be happy... and you deserve a better man, a better husband for yourself and a better father for your kid..fatherhood is not just providing the basic needs... if he can't spend time to visit or make a call for his son, he isn't a good father... don't be hard on yourself...your brighter days will come also...
2007-10-30 04:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Kinda same situation,but with a 16 yr old disabled daughter that worshipped her Daddy! He chooses his women over her. It does hurt but I keep telling myself what goes around comes around! He is missing out on his son,one day he will regret that. I just do the best I can do one day at a time. I have been almost 3 yrs. alone,and just try to spend it with and for my daughter!
2007-10-30 04:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very jealous of what he has and what you do not, but you have it pictured like the world is just so in love with this guy. Knock him off the pedastal. Be the best mom in the world, get yourself a good lokking boyfriend. Stop worrying about what someone else has.
2007-10-30 04:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing him to make you a victim. Just do what you have to do. The right guy will come along for you. Quit envying him. You are so busy concentrating on what he has, that you are not giving yourself the opportunity to move on. Who cares what size his house is!!!
2007-10-30 04:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by thinking about him and envying him, you are allowing him to continuously hurt you and affect you...you cannot expect to move on and be happy if you continue to do this....your ex is a jerk and he is not worth your time and worry...forget about him....however, dont dissuade your son about contacting his father...he might take this against you...slowly, on his own he will learn and find out that his father is not what he thinks he is...meanwhile, just do what you have to do....love will come your way someday...just concentrate on healing first and getting back on your feet...good luck...hope things will work out for you...
2007-10-30 04:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happens, avoid receiving news about your ex. as if he's dead.
Your son might get sad but he'll get used to it and someday, your son will appreciate all the sacrifices and love you gave him as a single mom.
Good Luck!
2007-10-30 04:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by jace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋