My husband is very arregunt and he never cares about me. He wants always me to work. Even when i sitdown he doesnot prefer. He didint even bought a dress for me in the past 12 years. It is very difficult to tackle him. What can i do?
2007-10-29 20:56:23 · 15 answers · asked by kavi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to hear that; it sounds like he is very bossy. Ask yourself, "Has he always been like this?" Perhaps it's his way of making himself feel powerful. Sounds like you guys have been together for a long time. The majority of the time, relationships change after quite a while. If you still love him, show it to him, and he might be more cooperative if he feels assured that you still love him. Sometimes men just seek attention. On the other hand, if you feel no love for him whatsoever, and he has always been a monster, I suggest you divorce him. This sounds like a serious situation. Only the two of you can solve it, but if the doesn't put any effort at all, don't even bother and leave him. Good Luck :)
2007-10-29 21:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way to go about it is moral suasion. you shower so much love and affection on him that he will start feeling guilty for being such an idiot. whatever you want from him give it to him double or treble and it will come back to you, hopefully multiplied. as newton says for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. instead of asking for favors, you do those favors for your husband and he should respond in kind.
if he still does'nt change he might have rocks in his head and may need the help of a therapist / marriage counselor / psychiatrist to help see things in prespective. its better you let a third person point out his faults rather then you doing it as he might resent you if you do so.
2007-10-30 01:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.
"He didint even bought a dress for me in the past 12 years" mean
you are living with your husband atleast last 12 years.... then
you should have undoubtly known him to the fullest and still
you are living with him.... then what is the big deal.... now
after such a long 12 years....
believe you me, and
just accept him as such (that he is a cyco) in real... and
see the difference by your-self...
2007-10-31 04:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Karsan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. There is something wrong with that situation. You sound like a prisoner in your own home. That is abuse. Contact the local Battered women's shelter in your area. The local police can tell you how to contact them. They will tell you how to get out and file for spousal support.
2007-10-29 21:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that you already know your options. If you have been with him for 12 years, I also suspect that you have choosen to stay with him (at least up to this point). You will have to make a decision as to what YOU want to do and move forward from there.
~
2007-10-29 21:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to spell. I can't see how people with absolutely no education can ever find someone just as dumb to marry them. Blows my mind. By the way, your trailer needs cleaned.
2007-10-30 04:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by jennyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you use the same English which you have used in your question? Any husband will run away with such grammer.
2007-10-29 21:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him or leave him, its your choice or become twice the cyco he is and he will leave.
2007-10-30 00:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a guy likes to be served. Just like you you want to be pampered...
To avoid arguing, I suggest you ask him for money to buy a dress for your 12 year anniversary. asking him to buy you one might be a big mistake.
You have to live with it sister! you decided to marry him right?!
2007-10-29 21:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by jace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your married to the man talk to him. If you think him unfair to you tell him so. Learn to stand up for yourself.
2007-10-29 21:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋