2007-10-29 20:12:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
theres absolutly NO WAY you can keep a 6year relationship intact, it takes two to do it....no matter how much YOU try to hold it together THEY have to want it also and put in the effort
2007-10-29 20:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Briefly heres what really seems to work in my own experience and observing others successful relationships.
Look back to the beginning. Remember how exciting it was? So much to learn about that person, so many questions,such intrigue right? Well, start a new beginning.10-1 you two have fallen into a dull, predictable routine, and I'm not talking work schedules here.
Revolution isn't the word, rather evolution. Evolve your relationship, you aren't the same people you were six years ago.Do things with your partner that you have never attempted before.
Have that same Italian restaurant you like all the time, eating the same thing? Ditch it. Try that Ethiopian place down the road.Have that same routine at the end of the day? Try calling your partner from work and asking for a date.Meet you at such and such a place at say 7? Ever just take a walk and hold hands?Has your personal appearance gotten slack due to familiarity all these years? Dress to impress..your mate that is. You kinda see where I'm going I suppose.
And yes communication. Reconnect with that person.Just let your heart spill out. Ask anything, say anything on your mind.No need to fight, just the facts. Go from there.
Its so easy to get into that rut, we've all done it, we all do it. Keep it new, keep it exciting. Its hard work, but is it worth it? You answer that one. Best wishes!
2007-10-29 21:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Robert D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the soreness, yet his strikes have already advised you he feels he made a mistake. in case you nevertheless won't be able to have self assurance it, what else is going to make you have self assurance it. he's long gone. evidence sufficient. somebody who can up and depart a newborn, and a woman who for sure enjoyed him, merits no longer something from you. do no longer supply him the delight of understanding you're being torn up interior approximately this. you have sat with the rejection for it sluggish now; that's time for 'self-care'. he's clearly looking after himself and is not any longer thinking approximately you. It does no stable so which you would be able to ponder whether your strikes from right here on in will influence him or no longer. he's loving his existence and if he has regrets in an prolonged time, stable. you do no longer ought to care. Care only approximately your self and your newborn and you will do precisely high quality. Oh, and that's no longer your fault - HE made the alternative to depart you and his daughter.
2016-12-30 09:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by salome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the first 6 years went well enough... Probably just need to remember how important you are to eachother and not take the other person for granted.
2007-10-29 20:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to spice up the relationship. a nice fun vacation a romantic get away. Getting involved in somenew things such as dance lessons, tennis lessons, etc... Sending flowers or giving cards that show how you feel.
2007-10-29 20:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a lot of hard work and it will take both parties to make it work and to keep it going strong throughout the years...most important thing is to keep communication lines open...you have to be able to talk about all issues and aspects of your life honestly...you have to be able to make compromises to arrive at solutions for your problems...next, you have to keep the romantic fire burning...you can do this by planning surprise out-of-town trips together or go on dates which does not include your kids...or you can find a common hobby or sport that you both enjoy doing....keep yourselves fit and attractive...this will keep you both from wandering out of your marriage....stay faithful and committed....as long as you both believe in your marriage...it will last....have a dose of laughter....it can do wonders for your marriage....finally...pray....remember the saying "a family that prays together stays together"?...well it really does work....
2007-10-29 20:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty will keep you together, you must trust first God then your wife or husband, if you have trust you will see all the good will follow that, so many people pretend to find the perfect one then they get busy trying to change them, Brian and I have been married for eight years and it feels so wonderful all the time, God does create matches made in Heaven and I believe ours is and yours can can be to just be honest , good luck
2007-10-29 20:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am in my 8th year of marriage...and with my own experience..what i feel that could hold two of them clinging on to the institution is....give lots of space to each other...do not barge in to your partner's privacy...all said and done, each individual would like to have some space for themselves. Do not argue in public or let your partner down... show that you have immense faith in the relationship....and leave the rest to God Almighty !! Good luck and God bless !!
2007-10-29 20:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have gone for 6 years you have gone through the mill. I do not think there is anything left to worry about.
2007-10-29 20:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Indika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 6 years... I would say communication is a biggy.....
But you needa be a little (or rather a lot) more specific...
2007-10-29 20:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋