something smells rotten in the moral state of yahoo answers...Can anyone explain this to me?
I've read quite a few questions by women looking for guidance, because they have discovered their husbands penchant for regularly surfing for porn online. These are ALMOST UNIVERSALLY met with such answers as "This is perfectly normal and healthy" "All men do it, and don't you dare try to take your husbands porn away" "Men are visual creatures" etc, etc. These answerers generally justify pornography on the basis that there is no physical contact; and therefore is not considered to be a form of infidelity.
Yet I have also come across a few questions from women, who have caught their husbands engaging in some form of cybersex (ie: chatrooms, virtual sex, recieving emails from women containing naked pictures of them...etc) This time however, almost everyone answering is absolutely appalled and is oh-so-quick to call this type of behavior cheating, and entirely unacceptable...
2007-10-29 19:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess my point is, if these men aren't going out and meeting these women...then how is this any different then porn? I'm not trying to justify cybersex here; quite the opposite...I just want illustrate the point that we have our generation has been conditioned to accept porn ok because it's been shoved down our throats so long, but when something similar like cybersex is still considered such a terrible thing, then where exactly is this line of morality?
2007-10-29 20:06:46 · update #1
Okay - I can kind of see your point about the interaction - but really - in a lot of cases they are just words being typed on a computer screen...doesn't seem like such a big deal when you look at it that way does it? But it is a big deal to a lot of people.
30 years ago it would have seemed like a pretty big deal for a wife to find out her husband regularly watched random women masterbating on a bed, while he sits there and watches her, while masterbating himself... but nowdays that's just porn - and that's okay?
2007-10-29 20:10:58 · update #2
OH MY GOD! I know what the DIFFERENCE is between the two okay? I'm asking MORALLY and ETHICALLY what is the difference.
2007-10-29 20:12:09 · update #3
to me, porn is cheating too... forsake all others was our vow... that means no looking at naked women, either...! if a man is "jacking off" to porn, and not having sex his wife, or not having sex as often as he should w/ his wife because he's all dried out from "jacking off" to porn, that's cheating... women need touch... alot of it! (um, me, anyway, lol!) anyway... yes, porn is cheating... it's getting sexual gratification from another woman (even if it's just a video) instead of from his wife... even if he's not touching her! same w/ strip clubs, or adult movie theatres... by the way, there are women out there who watch porn too against their husband's wishes... but they do it anyway! the worst part is, if you know it upsets your spouse, yet, you do it anyway, it's cheating! =(... and it means you don't care about your spouse's feelings, you only care about your private parts! ugh... porn has only become more popular because alot of it is free to view online... it's not perfectly normal and healthy, men are visual creatures? so are women... ok, try looking at your spouse for a freakin' change! many may not consider porn infidelity, but, I do... I don't care what anyone else says... and I will make sure our kids don't settle for a man/woman who wants to sit around playing w/ themselves instead of going to rake the leaves/mow the lawn/cook/clean the house...! fooey... it's worse when kids are in the home, too... =(... no excuse for porn, especially when you are married!!!... none... basically, porn, cybering, texting, emailing, chatting, webcamming, it's all the same and morally and ethically wrong... just the same in my book... all wrong...
2007-10-30 00:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cybersex Porn
2016-12-26 18:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by swadling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 21:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all couples should be honest with each other about how they feel about topics like porn. Sure men may be "visual creatures" but that doesn't mean they have a right to hide the fact from their wives, and lets dont forget that men arent the only ones that watch porn, either way, point is, discuss it with your spouse and find out where they stand, explain your side and come to a decision.
The difference in porn and cyber sex is that porn only involves one person, not only at a physical level, but at the level of discourse, emotion and time. Cybersex can be more intense than porn because there is actually another person there, though not physically. There is someone interacting with you, someone responding specifically to what you say and do. This is the reason it is in a seperate catagory than porn for many people.
2007-10-29 20:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Cybersex is talking about it. Kinda like phone sex, only on the computer. Only thing is, you cant prop the keyboard up with your shoulder when you are touching yourself like you can with the phone. The advantage here is that its usually free unless you are talking to a professional. The disadvantage is that you never really know for sure if you are cybering with a member of the opposite sex. Worse, is it a person with whom you'd have in person sex??
Porn, on the other hand, is viewing photos and films of other people in the act while you are touching yourself. The advantage here is that you neednt touch the key board and have both hands to work things out. The disadvantage is that this can be very expensive.
Neither is acceptable for individuals to do if they are in a committed relationship. This cheapens the people involved and we are nothing without respect and love for one another.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-29 20:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The difference between cyber sex and porn is that cyber sex is interactive, and porn is just watching. In cyber sex the person watching can ask for the person on web can to do certain things, pose a certain way, talk dirty, etc. Its like a more advanced type of phone sex. Both can involve credit cards and cyber sex is generally more expensive.
It is the interactive, rather than the passive nature of porn, that makes cyber sex more of a problem.
2007-10-29 20:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think both are morally wrong. I still think one can lead to the other and keep going from there. After putting it in your mind for so long, the excitement of the inanimate pictures will wear off. So, then you will graduate to something else. Just like drugs, once one doesn't give you the high you want, you graduate to a new one.
There is an old saying "junk in, junk out".
People want it to be ok, because we do not hold anybody accountable for anything they do. No one can control themselves any more.
2007-10-29 21:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind my husband looking at porn. Most the time we watch it together.
I do mind him talking to other women and recieving pics (esepically if he knows them from real life) sexually.. Why well b/c while just looking at some radom porn whore, he isn't contecting with her. But threwing talking and chatting, he is contecting and to me there is more of a chance he would cheat.
2007-10-29 23:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber Sex Porn
2016-11-08 07:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with porn they are watching a tapped sex show right, they have now mental interaction, communication or physcial interaction. therefore no big threat and no problems
cyber sex - they have actually been talking to another human bean and have communications with them which can be regarded as cheating as they are interacting another person.
huge difference to seeking another partner for internet and phone sex to just watching a porn star have sex on the television.
2007-10-29 20:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋