2007-10-29 19:41:51 · 23 answers · asked by sara 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was not asking this based on my personal relationship with my husband. I was only wondering out of curiosity.
2007-10-29 19:58:28 · update #1
Only if your relationship is solid and one filled with love at the beginning, does a baby add to the strength of the marriage. Having a baby just to try to keep a marriage together is a bad move and only makes things harder in the future. ie the husband may feel he was tricked into having a baby, and the wife will feel stuck in the marriage for the sake of the child.
2007-10-29 19:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. Not at all.
Put it this way - my husband and I were very happily married, we had been married 2 years and were wanting kids. After we tried for a year we were worried we couldn't - ended up getting pregnant and deliriously happy :)
Still am happy. But have to tell you - that first year with a baby - put it this way, I'm glad we had a lot of time together first (though now I see we didn't need to rush it and could have had more). But there were many times in that first year where (if we hadn't been so strong) we could easily have let it go.... there were some dam hard times. But... we got through them... barely .... and here we are, 3 years on :) Still have some hard times as our life isn't our own anymore. But it's ok. I think we are stronger for it - a lot of people would have given up ages ago… but we hung in there :)
2007-10-29 20:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. Having children is wonderful in and of itself, but it certainly does not make you closer to your spouse! When you have a baby you both become sleep-deprived stressed-out overburdened blithering idiots....that's how new parents are and is totally normal, but it puts a LOT of strain on your relationship. If your relationship isn't rock solid before you have a baby it's going to come out on the other end of childbirth a mess.
2007-10-29 20:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends. If you and your husband are happily married and you two decide to have an addition to the family. Then yes, the baby will bring you closer to each other. However, if you're having marital issues and are hoping that the baby will fix things up, then the answer is no.
2007-10-29 19:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Adn's Mommie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't fix problems if that's what you are thinking. In fact, having children causes a lot of stress and can break up a marriage. I was reading an article about a study that has shown that couples are most content during the pre-child years and after offspring have moved out. I believe it!
2007-10-29 19:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were having the same debate. He is extremely stressed about work, finances, etc.
He says he thinks we're ready for a child. I told him that we are not ready because we argue about almost everything.
I said that children are expensive and if he's so stressed about everything now, how will a baby make things any better?
He said one thing: "When we have a baby, we'll have something to smile about."
This is what I believe!
2007-10-29 20:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know several people who thought having a child would improve their relationship, but it only led to more problems. It is not a good idea to do this because whatever problem was there to begin with is still there after the child arrives. Nothing is fixed and now there is a 3rd person to contend with.
2007-10-29 20:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how the hubby sees the baby--a welcome addition, or an added burden, or even competition for mommy's attention and time. It's actually good to be close with your spouse before having a child. Don't wait for a baby to fix things up.
2007-10-29 19:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Linni 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! My husband and i got along better before the baby and when our son moved out at 20. Not that he didn't love his son because he would die for him. This give him more time with me,just him and i and i think all men prefer it that way.
2007-10-29 19:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not already that close to him i don't think a child would make u closer. sometimes bringing a baby in a relationship can make for trouble.
2007-10-30 00:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋