I've noticed on dating websites that the majority of the women on there are given a choice on what race they're looking for. A great deal of them check "Caucasian/White" instead of "Any" or "Doesn't matter." When I read some of their profiles and they seem like a good person, I may want to say a quick hello or something like that. But then I'll see that they're looking for Caucasian/White guys only.
It's like, "wham! I'm automatically disqualified" before she even knows who I am. I'm an Asian American and I am just as "Americanized" as any other Caucasian person. The ONLY difference is my physical appearance. I don't understand because I'm open to all races; it's WHO the person is that matters.
What are your thoughts about the race thing on dating sites?
2007-10-29 18:51:27 · 10 answers · asked by pimpdred12 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Why don't you contact a girl you like anyway, and express that to her. Let her know that you liked her profile but you saw that she was only interested in white guys... most women won't totally exclude a guy based on race if he is a nice person, so its not that you are automatically disqualified you might just have to let her know you are interested. You could also try dating sites that are specifically catered to women who like Asian men, there are all kinds of specialty dating services out there. Otherwise look for the girls who list no preference under the race choice.
BTW most people who are into interracial relationships can easily identify others who are also. Its kinda like how some people have gaydar. Maybe you should tune up your flirting skills. I'm sure there are plenty of girls out in the real world who are interested in you but you are not catching the signs.
2007-10-29 19:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Roni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HHmm....good question!
I've always put "doesn't matter" when filling out those questionnaires...
I'd say the same as someone else did...if you find a profile that interests you, send her a message...see how things go.
It is kinda crazy that so many people would actually choose only one race, but to each their own...do you really want someone that closed minded?? However, you never know unless you message them and start up a conversation with them!
Good luck!!
2007-10-29 19:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No
i think i'm pretty brave for an asian girl saying that who's not white washed or too into the korean thing ;)
i'm a happy medium who loves being korean american
many asian parents extremely hate interacial relationships . and i don't know why
i talked to my parents about it and they told me that if he makes me happy then that's all they care about. which i'm really thankful for because i know a lot of my asian friends' parents are not like that at all.
i'm perfectly fine with people who are going to only stick to their ethnicity.. i'm just thinkin u may be missing out. hehe
if one day.. i do get my first bf.. he would have to be a sweetheart :)
p.s. a lot of guys kinda stay away from the asian girl thing in my area. this one guy liked a asian girl in my school.. and i'm like why don't u ask her out. and he's like cuz she's korean and i'm a white boy.. i'm like "so?" he's like "mom and dad"
?? weeird
2007-10-29 18:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ mimi ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as youre attractive or my type of man, then it doesnt matter. i think that most races tend to look for their own race when they have a choice to feel that already have a connection but that doesn't mean that all others are out of the picture.
2007-10-29 19:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by lilu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sexual attraction many people know what they want white guys what is the big deal you can not change the rules, that is just the way it is no big deal... find an Asian girl.
2007-10-29 18:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own preferences. What ever race turns them on is the race they like the best.
2007-10-29 20:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's just who they are attracted to. I personal don't care about race.
2007-10-30 03:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the ideal of having the option to choose what race you prefer.
2007-10-29 18:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by xanqui1293 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Americans have been brainwashed to be shallow. Looks for the male, money for the women.
2007-10-29 18:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anna C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm white, I don't think race matters at all. Thats ridiculous.
2007-10-29 18:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋