I know it's true for me! I'm just wondering why....the sex was great when we were dating and even just living together but it's almost like a switch went off once we signed that certificate. We don't have kids yet so it's not like our lives changed a lot but I don't get it! Pun intended! What's it like for both men and women?
2007-10-29 18:12:57 · 18 answers · asked by Kat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This happens to most ppl! You have to make an effort to make it exciting, believe me, it will be worth it! I picked my husband up from work one day wearing a trench coat with very sexy leingeray underneath, we didn't even make it into our house! We recently bought a game called The Kama Sutra Game Of Love, its the best, we haven't yet made it to the end! It doesn't take that much to make it exciting, especially for the man. Even if you just put on a little outfit and was waiting for him when he got home from work, men are pretty easy to please. Men want a nice girl on the outside and a slut in the bedroom!
2007-10-29 18:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there is less sex after marriage in 80% of cases some will say it is better some say it is the same, but work is one thing that stops the affection, many females have less sex drive after marriage, and some of them will say males have less, guess it really goes down to you know it is legal and can do it when ever so you don't get the excitement you do before, because we all know people should not have sex before marriage, a couple should keep experimenting finding ways to excite each other, and then it would stay alive, but most guys only want sex after marriage to satisfy their own needs, but does not care if the female is satisfied, a male should nearly have a female satisfied with foreplay before wanting to staisfy himself, but guys will be guys they only think about themselves and do not care if females are happy when the act is finished
2007-10-29 18:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by please ask m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, but mine had gotten worse over the years, after 18yrs. of marriage, intercourse is not there anymore all my wife does, like maybe once in awhile she'll satisfy me orrally, but what can I do, were married and I guess I stuck with it. She either doesn't care or just gets what she wants, in the meantime I left holding the bag, She doesn't understand that I need to intercourse also, but that will probably never be, I guess this is what they mean, for better or worse???. Take care and hope everything works out.
2007-10-29 19:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband lags sometimes, but gets back in track -right away- because he hates the terrible mood I get in, when I -like you- don't "get it ". We've been married 5 years and we actually have more sex now than before getting married; but that was because we lived in different states and used to have to fly to see each other. If, for whatever reason, he doesn't approach me, I jump him. I hope this doesn't change too much, as time goes by, because it would be extremely difficult for me to get used to not getting enough sex. I'd probably go crazy or something.
2007-10-29 18:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not Ive been with my husband for 6 yrs married for 4 and our intimacy keeps getting better and better. were really good friends we laugh alot so that has a lot to do with it we have the same kind of humor so it helps. we both try and keeps things new i surprise him alot when he gets home, he does the same for me and i have no complaints but if you would like any suggestions I'm open I'm not judgmental i understand tottally cause it took a bit for me to open up to my husband i was always shy but now i know it does take time to grow together and when the both of you are comfortable with e other and yourself one hundred % then more emotions will be involved and the results are tremendous!
2007-10-29 18:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are major changes in your life (even if you don't see it), sex can change. Pay more attention what is going on with your spouse and his life. Stress and other factors can come in to play. Also try adding some spice into your love life. I did that and things improved big time. Sometimes the same old thing becomes old. Good luck
2007-10-29 18:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by illisse25 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
now that your married you are secure together in every way, sex is important, but along with marriage comes alot of other responsibility, just take it easy , you dont have kids, your lucky you can play any time you want. have fun, and just let things happen natural.
2007-10-30 01:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend gets a kick everytime when he asks people "What is the one food that kills a woman's sex drive? Wedding cakes"...haha Im not sure why...maybe you just become comfortable in knowing that you love eachother
2007-10-29 18:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be a disease that happens and can cause allot of problems in marriages.Maybe you guys need to liven it up a bit and try different things to try to get it back to how it used to be or better.Be spontaneous.
2007-10-29 19:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by onetimer73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, for me the sex keeps getting better as the years go by ( 14 years) We get more adventerous as times go by. yeah, there are lows but we make sure to get the spunk back in there - you have to work at it and have fun!!! ha ha
2007-10-29 18:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by hawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋