Do you believe in love anymore????

Question

I mean, the divorce rate in the US is over 50%!! What does that tell you about love?!

I just wish I could just meet someone, fall in love, and that's it. But it's just SO complicated!! And what if there's a perfect guy for me, my SOULMATE, and we never meet?? I hate to say it, but love is gone. I used to look everywhere for the perfect person to fall in love with.
Why even try anymore??

Answer 1

Wow, so many responses to one question- doesn't that give you some hope. Everyone , at least I believe, will find love if they are willing to make sacrifices, take chances and date around- even people you wouldn't normally think are your type. Love is an emotion but it is also a choice. My parents have one of the best marriages I have ever seen, but they both have their issues- they just choose not to let them fester and fester and they also have learned how to say I'm sorry, I forgive you and I love you and lastly- they let each other live their own lives while loving the time they spend together. (and my mom originally said no to his proposal because she thought he was boring and not funny and way too serious- but when he said he was moving away and she realized she could live without her, she knew she needed him and they have lived wonderfully ever since then.)

I lost hope in it for a while too, but then realized that it takes time and I needed to grow first before I was ready to find the man I've always dreamed of. Men love confidence and when they enter a relationship- they hope it never changes- while on the other hand woman always want to change their men. If you learn to live with the little problems and don't try to change a guy from the inside out- you will find love- I promise!! I'm still looking, but I am growing during the process and I think that is the most important thing plus- learn from past mistakes in previous relationships and you'll do better each time. Good luck to everyone looking for love. ;o)

Answer 2

first and most importantly you must realize that many people are getting divorced 3-5 times and they are added into the rates I do not think this is a fair way to rate it since one person being married 5 times makes 4 normal couples look like one.
Love, Marriage and everything that goes with it is very complicated in a world where we are taught to do what makes us happy.
as to if I believe in Love - Absolutely the problem is we want the fairly tale not reality we don't want to have to worry about budgets, kids, sickness, job losses and stress. We no longer want to be emotionally vested in someone caring for them fully no matter what.
I am going on 5 years of marriage with in 2 weeks of getting married my hubby was diagnosed with an illness that we have been fighting for 5 years now we are together we still love each other very deeply and I am very committed to him, you don't know the road you will walk down you can just be very careful in who and how you choose who you marry.

I had two major ideas when marrying
1.I wanted to love him enough that when I hated him I would love him again.
(you will always have moments)
2. I wanted to love him so much that I wanted to wake up next to him every day for the rest of my life. if that thought scares you or makes you ill then your not ready.

Answer 3

don't try that's when u find love when your not looking. Marriages don't work because people don't fight for it. If u look at older people, like your grandma and grandpa if their still together, ask them about their marriage early on. I'm sure they will tell u it was no cake-walk and now their happy and so comfortable with one another. Relationships are work and the problem is people don't want to work at them. So I believe there is love people just give up on it instead of fighting for it. And there is no perfect guy or woman, but when u love someone enough u look best their imperfections. Unless they are abusive or cheating, something major like that. So don't give up on love or your relationships so easy or u might miss it.

Answer 4

People are just spreading the love by marring more than one person.

Love isn't gone you're just paranoid. It's not real, but neither is Santa Claus and people still find away to have the belief.

You WILL find the man that buys you soup and comes to your house when you're sick... And will take you shopping and tell you that every dress looks wonderful on you, and that you're beautiful... blah blah... but the likeliness of finding your own Mr. Darcy is quite far fetched.

But having that attitude isn't a great start.

Try thinking smaller and one step at a time.

Answer 5

you're right... one of my three sisters might head for divorce pretty soon. There are four of us... does that mean if I get married, I'll be a part of that 50% who get divorced?? I just realized this the other day, but hopefully, I'll be the majority, because I can see myself happily married.... I'm picky, and I am not afraid to work hard to make a success out of my decisions. The more solid you keep the foundation of marriage, the more likely it will have success. It needs a foundation of mutual committment, loyalty, genuine unselfish love, trust, and to carry it all through, there must be communication. Most people just do not want to put out the hard work that is needed in order for marriage to work out. More often, people opt for common-law or not to be married.

Answer 6

Love is never pointless. Keep looking, that's all I can tell you. Before I met my wife, I was a wreak. I was on so many drugs I kept track of the days by the pills I took. After Michelle came into my life I got the motivation I needed to quit. His name's Jude Anderson and he came on December 24th 2002. I was an out of control rocker and I went from that to a family man in a matter of months. Love conquers all, and it's the truth.

Answer 7

yes I do you can't just look at numbers! And there is a saying that someone told me once that is true,if your not looking so hard for that "love of your life" that is when you'll find them sounds to me like you need to be ok with you before find that one right person! Trust me I use to think that and than I took that advise and now I'm happy in love with a man that I have been with for a year now and where talking about getting married!! So DON'T give up!! ^_^

Answer 8

Don't worry about and one little hint, don't look for it, it will arrive when you less expected, and it will be great, pray and wai....hihi

I use to think the same way before knowing my husband, after years of looking, I just decided to enjoy my work and my life as I was living doing everything how it should be done ...and when I less thought trhough a co-worker friend, I knew my now husband, have two beautiful and lovely kids, 8 & 4...and the best of all , He is a great man, husband and frien...

just be pacient and keep Jesus beside you always, to keep you from falling.

hug
Betsy

Answer 9

I met my soul mate, but right now, he is at the bottom of a beer bottle, thinking about what he did wrong, and I am here. So, I'm looking for a new soul mate!

Yes, I believe in love, absolutely, totally, unequivocally, yes. Without it, life is just dull.

Answer 10

I 'm sure you're still very young. YES, of course, I believe in love, for without love the world will never really push through. No farmers will plant food for us, teachers will not teach, parents will not take care of their children etc. My dear, it's "CHOICE" that is the main culprit of the divorce anywhere... wrong choice, of mates, of ideas, of job, etc. People should really wait and pray... for the right choice, do you?