my ex said she was a month pregnant with twins and had a miscarriage after about a month and she said she lost 2 bags i guess the placenta im not sure though. i want to know if its possible to pull dna from this or when she supposedly went to the doctor to get cleaned out to identify if i was the father of these twins
2007-10-29 15:17:42 · 12 answers · asked by friomedic5 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
As far as I could tell, the earliest DNA testing available is at 8 weeks gestation so at one month it is doubtful that it could even be done. Even if it could be done I can *guarantee* you that DNA testing on miscarried babies is not routine, would probably not be covered by any insurance that I'm aware of, and I highly doubt a doctor would be willing to do it. What she went to the hospital for was probably a DNC, which is a medical procedure that makes sure that your uterus is cleaned out to prevent infection. DNA/paternity tests are NOT apart of a DNC.
In the end though, the bottom line is that even IF it was possible, her insurance would cover it, and the doctor would do it, they CANNOT prove paternity without a sample of YOUR DNA which they CANNOT take without your permission. So unless you submitted a mouth swab and signed a release form, it would be *IMPOSSIBLE* for them to conclude whether or not you were the father.
This girl obviously lied to you-either about her pregnancy, her procedure, or both-which means that she has some *SERIOUS* mental issues.
Good thing she's your EX huh?
2007-10-29 15:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why??? I'm sure it is possible, but what is the point? She's your ex, and the babies are dead. It's sad, but at this point rather irrelevant who the father is (why do you doubt that you are?).
The doctor would have disposed of the tissue. Also, since it came from her body, I highly doubt that you would have any right to test it.
However, her "knowing" that she had twins at one month seems a bit off to me. Many women don't even know that they are pregnant at that point. Even if she had a miscarriage, the babies wold be SO tiny that I doubt a doctor would be able to determine if they were twins or a singleton. I have several friends who had twins, and none of them knew they had twins before the heartbeats could be heard, or their first ultrasound. Her story sounds a bit sketchy to me. There is no way that she would know, pre-miscarriage, that she was carrying twins. Could she possibly be lying to you about the pregnancy? Some women will do that to try to get an ex back. Horrid, but it happens. Whether they get their ex back or not, the only way out is to claim a miscarriage. After all, they would be shown to be lying after a few months, when they obviously were not pregnant. I hate to sound skeptical, but the whole story reeks of deception. Perhaps the entire pregnancy was a rouse, or perhaps she WAS pregnant and felt the need to inflate it to twins to make you feel worse?
EDIT: If my knowledge of embryology serves me correctly, there is not even an amniotic sac that would be large enough to see in a d and c ("the cleaning out" you refer to) at that point (but you may want to check that online). At one month, babies are tiny little ones and have recently implanted.
2007-10-29 22:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if she was only a month when she miscarried, it wouldn't have been necessary to go to the doctor to get cleaned out. At that early in the pregnancy, I don't even know how she could tell she was having twins. Either way, why do you care about DNA now? She's obviously an ex for a reason so just leave it be.
2007-10-29 22:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by CaliTransplant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow the girl just had a miscarriage and you don't believe her when she says they were, but no i seriously doubt you would be able to find out, because the only way the do that is to take fluid from the sac around the baby and she's lost the twins so that is impossible to do so. and why does it matter what is going to change the situation for you? the babies are gone you can't do anything to change that if they were your babies or not. I'm sorry for your ex's loss tho its hard enough to deal with loosing one child let alone 2 at the same time, my heart goes out to her
2007-10-29 22:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the purpose of knowing now? Whether they were your children or not, she is dealing with a lot after the miscarriage. You should be there for her in her time of need regardless. It is a very painful thing to deal with. And to answer your question, when she went to be "cleaned out" as you said, they dispose of the tissue and things immediately, so no...you could not find out. Pretty sure it would be VERY expensive if you even could, since it so unnecessary.
2007-10-29 22:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by .:Adrians' So Handsome:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to put someone through that kind of trouble? If she was pregnant with twins, and miscarried both, she's probably very emotionally drained right now. Why do you doubt being the father? If she's no longer pregnant, why does the paternity matter anyway? I just don't see the point besides being spiteful for you to make such an outlandish request.
2007-10-29 22:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
What's the point? She's your EX and the babies are both gone...so what difference does it make if you're their father or not? The woman just lost her babies, maybe try to be a little empathetic I can only imagine what a horrible ordeal she's going through!
2007-10-29 22:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by JenJen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter now? She lost TWINS. I cannot imagine how losing one baby would feel, but to lose two? She must be devastated. And all you care about is if you were the father in that situation. Shame on you. Think about others before yourself.
2007-10-29 22:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any proof she was pregnant? I find it odd she knew she was having twins at one month!
There are some very sad people out there who think telling there partner they were pregnant and that they lost it will bring them closer together.
Looks like it is over now, forget it, and count your blessings you are rid of her. (this is of course if she was lieing, not that i will ever know. If she wasn't, my heart goes out to her)
2007-10-29 22:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Excited Baby #2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do such a thing? To add stress and pain to an already terrible situation?
It also sounds like you are doubtful about the pregnancy. Just drop it now. It doesn't make any difference since she's your ex. The babies, if there were any, are dead. Move on.
2007-10-29 22:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋