every time we go to a club my bf wants to bring someone home.... is this ODD???? do I go with the flow???? what if hes better than me? Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-29 14:57:16 · 32 answers · asked by AZBOY 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
straight or gay really isn't the issue here.
The issue is you're in a committed monogamous relationship and your boyfriend wants to stray.
If he didn't want to be in a monogamous relationship, he shouldn't have entered into one.
Gay or straight, the majority of the time when committed couples go outside the relationship, it ends in disaster.
You have a choice:
1. stay with him and accept he will never be monogamous.
2. leave him and find someone who wants the same things you do.
2007-10-29 15:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a gay guy myself i have been in a similar situation and its not easy. its hard when in a relationship to distinguish is it just sex or could it lead too more serious actions. i think being in a relationship should be sacred. your partner should not be putting pressure on you to do this. going with the flow could lead to alot of fun and good times for you all but it could lead to heartache. dont worry about performance it just sounds like he is trying for you and him to live out his fantasy - which you may want to factor into your decision. you need to be very careful what you choose to do. good luck but be very careful xxx
2007-10-30 00:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are comfortable with the idea of a threesome and the individual with whom you will be getting into it with yoru bf, then go for it. But it is like anythign else in life - if it feels totally wrong to you then simply say no. Though be sure to explain to your guy why.
2007-11-01 14:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shouldn't the sex between the both of you be good enough? I guess it depends on the person but I don't agree with that. i wouldn't want that in my own relationship I feel like it only causes problems and when I have sex with someone I want it to all be focused on me and that person..I wouldn't wanna share my time with someone else!! I say don't do it. That's my opinion and if you're questioning it it's obviously not something you're dying to do so why risk disease and sleeping with some random person you don't even know.
2007-10-29 15:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
From another gayman: If your NOT 100% comfortable with it then say NO!
Your not their to simply entertain your boyfriends needs, sex must be a 2 way (or perhaps in this case 3 way) exchange and all parties must be 100% consenting to it, if your nervous or worried about it your performance will suffer aswel.
Your boyfriend should respect this if hes worth anything. Wait untill your ready or you feel your with the right partner/s.
2007-10-29 15:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sophia 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Go with what you feel...
I think that if you don't want to then don't do it
don't be pressured into something you don't want to do..
also if you are worried about some guy that you and your boyfriend pick up at a club being better than you then maybe you have some trust issues with him because if he is that shallow then you should ditch his a.s.s
2007-10-29 15:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell your bf how you feel. Talk about it with him. It is a tough situation..it could make or break your relationship..if you do it make sure it is something YOU really want to do...otherwise...it may cause some unwanted tension and jealousy issues in your relationship.
2007-10-29 15:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Personally I think if someone cares about someone else they don't want a three some... they want to be with the person they care about, only...
I think your boyfriend is not that serious about You... Dump him and find someone worth Your Attention...
2007-10-29 15:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like some high-risk sexual behavior. Gay or not, you don't want to get the HIV for some random club hopper, or anyone for that matter.
I am a hetro, but it doesnt sound like fun, who knows what the 3 wheel has STD wise.
2007-10-29 15:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by von_meat_helmet 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He is endangering his and your life by using another partner for sex that may be unprotected. It's very selfish of him not to consider your feelings. My advice is to break away from him and find a more faithful lover.
2007-10-29 15:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋