When a woman asks, after being with a man through a few kids and many years "why doesn't he want to have sex anymore?" she usually goes through the possible circumstances,- maybe he's cheating, maybe he's watching porn, maybe he's gay, maybe he's not the man I expected he'd be maybe he works too much .... When it seems more than likely from the outside that he's prorbably just tired of looking at you. Isn't that a pretty obvious assumption? It makes sense in most situations. But women want to find a problem with Him, because of course its his fault he doesn't feel like having sex with a woman he's had sex with hundreds of times and seen naked everyday for the past however many years; especially if now you are 30-50 lbs heavier, or you just simply unnerve him on a daily basis! What's difficult to understand about this? Im interested to know what women's thoughts are.
2007-10-29 14:55:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
To all those who disagree with me-- what do you propose are some of the reasons men no longer seem attracted to their spouses?
2007-10-29 15:13:31 · update #1
Next, this dude will be whining about how feminists are to blame because he didn't get custody of the kids after his wife dumps him. LOL
2007-10-29 15:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Your judgment is all wrong, because you are looking into a relationship that you have no personal experience with. Only very young people value themselves and others by the way they look. Because at that age you do not know and do not care about who you are as an individual. As time goes by, you hopefully will grow into some self knowledge. You also will learn to build your personal relationships on friendship, respect and love. People who are fortunate enough to be married for a long time ( 17 years for me personally ) do know what love is in mental, emotional and physical sense of the word. I can promise you, it has very little to do with how many pounds they both put on. BTW, my own sex life is wildly satisfying. Thank you.
2007-10-29 16:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talked about it as if marriage is for lust not for love. Love is about appreciating who you partner really is and try your best to hold on to it forever. It's not the matter of you yourself are sick of all the baby fat and the aged skin. Maybe then you should've chosen a real lover, not a sex slave. Pardon my language but i get offended when people are so careless about other's feeling.
2007-10-29 18:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by elie031 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of funny! Last night on the news I saw that the nearest big city to where I live sent out a police woman dressed as a hooker out on a lonely street. In one hour they caught 11 middle aged men trying to solicit her for sex in return for money. They placed them face down in a nearby local park and showed them on television. Each one of them were middle aged men and paunchy. I happen to believe that many-many men don't care where they put it! I believe that your assumption about men and women are a bit biased.
2007-10-29 16:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Libby 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who on earth gives a flying ????
Those are my thoughts. Additional thoughts - you are young, with precious little life experience. How on earth do you expect to be able to convince the grownups of something when it's transparently clear you have no idea what you are talking about?
Hey, guess what son: men also MATURE. A 50 old man is capable of a much more mature and multifaceted relationship than you are at the ripe old age of 17.
The men too are ' 30-50 lbs heavier' and MORE with distended pot bellies, shiny bald heads with bad comb-overs, grey hair, wrinkles, loose jiggly skin and discoloured teeth.
You can't even IMAGINE (du-uh).
2007-10-29 15:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
I lived under the same roof with my ex-husband for fifteen years, FIFTEEN YEARS... and even though we had problems and eventually we ended up divorced, we never stopped having sex during all the years we spent together. In fact, oddly enough, sex was probably the best thing we had in our relationship. Neither of us "got tired of it." Tired of each other sometimes, tired of arguing- yes, but tired of sex? Nope. Maybe you're just way past your prime?
2007-10-29 15:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your giving this to much thought if he isn't interested in her then she probably isn't interested in him either. He has probably gained weight, lost hair and has had several medical problems over the years to make him not as attractive.
2007-10-29 16:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by IRIS 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you hit the nail on the head with the comment, "you simply unerve him on a daily basis." If more women were loving, admiring, and playful with their husbands, a lot of that initial attraction would probably not fade. Women make the mistake of thinking men don't have feelings, or thinking that men's feelings are not as important as women's. It's a huge mistake....if a woman simply places a high priority on her man's feelings and making sure she's meeting his needs, he will more than likely have a MUCH BETTER attitude than yours, even if he has seen his woman naked hundreds of times.
2007-10-29 15:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I guess the presumption on her part was that when he said he loved HER prior to them having kids that he was sincere. Just as she meant that even when he was paunchy, bald and less attractive, he would still be handsome and loved in her eyes.
So what are you saying, that all men are soulless, superficial pigs? I don't think so; speak for yourself.
2007-10-29 15:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Sadly, people sometimes lose attraction to their partners. It just happens. It not just men, by the way.
2007-10-29 15:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋