i alwayz get friends that need me there for emotinal support not knowing it and then what happens is when i fix them and every thing isnt rocky they put me on the back burner how do i make friends that will still be there for the long run ?
2007-10-29 14:46:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Being a shoulder to cry on is part of being a friend, but it sounds as though they are taking advantage of you. If you have a rough day, are they there for you? If not, then it's time to get new friends. I'm not really sure why you attract lousy friends, but you shouldn't change your ways. You'll find people who will know a good thing when they have it.
2007-10-29 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by evenstar8723 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually the other way around... the "fixer" hooks up with someone they think they can fix... usually with disasterous results.
Basically, you just quit being user-friendly. Simple as that. When they call, don't administer the ol' wet-lick-on-the-ear like you have been... just point out the pattern at play and tell them that the pattern will continue to replay until they change themselves.
Find some more emotionally mature and stable friends to hang out with. Start with some kind of common interest and network some new friends from there.
2007-10-29 15:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's truely a hard question. A true friend is really hard to come by. I'm lucky enough to have found one.
2007-10-29 14:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋