I give him hints, but he doesn't seem to get them and never initiates love making. He loves to watch TV in his spare time. I don't understand why he doesn't see that I need attention. I've lost weight, set romantic atmospheres, and dress up and everything. Another guy checks me out pretty frequently, and it feels really nice to have the attention. I never thought I would enjoy this type of attention after I got married. I feel horribly about this. What should I do?
2007-10-29 14:24:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear True Enough,
If you love your husband then jump his bones and get some. He doesn't have to initiate sex all the time does he? As for the man checking you out (check yourself) all he wants is to take advantage of you which is what you may not be looking for. Sex means nothing unless you are with someone you care about, he would only fill your void (but not like you want him to). Have you ever thought of sex therapy for you and your husband? It could bring back the sex appeal in both of you. Good Luck!
2007-10-29 14:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by beamer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is only one option in this situation, You need to sit down and be honest with your spouse. I know that it does this is not a conversation that you are looking forward to but it is one that you must have. Relationships, even the aspects of sex, are about communication. Let your spouse know that you are unsatisfied sexually. He sould feel good that you are sexually attracted to him and want to be intimate more with him. Ask him what he would like to happen to turn him on and be the agressor. Ask him if he has any fantasy he wants fullfilled, such as role play, costumes, games, then take it from there... if he feels a new chemistry he will be more turned on and eager..
2007-10-29 14:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write him a love letter and put it in his lunch or at least make sure he leaves for work with it. Make it HOT tell him how much you need to feel his touch and how wet you get when you think about him through the day. If this don't work check to see that his heart is still beating .. lol
2007-10-29 14:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Timbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you are telling the truth,believe me its hard when you try so hard and you don't get what you want,,,
its time for you to treat him the same way that he is treating you,,, I could never understand why they act like this at times,,, I know that you feel depressed,,, this is really like a reject and it really hurts,,, but at the same time you need to let him know how you feel ...
I hope that everything works out well for you
Good Luck
Leena
2007-10-29 14:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by leena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are leaving hints for someone, and they seemingly aren't catching them, then it's time to pull out the big boys. You be the initiator of the lovemaking session. Sometimes we as women expect men to know what we want and when we want it, but the truth is, men are clueless. They only have their own agendas when it comes to sex. Let him know what you want, how you want it, and when you want it. He may surprise you! Don't settle for anything less, take charge and assert your girl powers.
2007-10-29 14:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and open with him. Tell him how you're feeling; how he makes you feel. Insist, speak plainly. We men can have difficulty reading the writing on the wall--simply and plainly is often necessary with the courser species. You may find that the problem is not you, but him.
Best of luck
2007-10-29 14:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by dominia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just needs a little bigger hint...just say ..honey..meet me up in our room will you...then go upstairs put something sexy on..lay on the bed..and look into his eyes...and I am sure he will get the hint...or..just start kissing him..and lead him upstairs. and its natural to feel good when someone else gives you attention...just don't make an affair out of it.
2007-10-29 14:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Macy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He like TV. huh? I would block the TV and start giving him a strip tease if he is paying attention. If that don't work i would just go over to him and make him know that i was horny. STRIP HIM BUTT *** NAKED.
2007-10-29 14:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't pick up hints. I know that you want him to get the hints, but sometimes you just have to spell it out to him. Come on to him, or bring him his favorite drink in sexy lingerie or in the nude. Let him know that you want him.
2007-10-29 14:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk in the room, start to strip and as you have undressed to your undies turn the TV off.
Sometimes you have to give him more than a "hint" (whatever that was).
2007-10-29 14:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋