You know to be honest, its really hard to tell sometimes these days. As STUPID AS THAT MAY SOUND. When it comes to relationships, do you think people truely wanna be happy? With the way we treat each other, from the way things looks sometimes. Do people wanna be happy? Or do they wanna be selfish?
Now I know that might sound stupid! But you gotta look at relationships and wonder whether or not people wanna be happy. . .
Thoughts?
2007-10-29 14:22:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
AND I'M NOT JUST TALKING ABOUT MARRIAGE ONLY. THIS GOES ACROSS THE BORAD. . .
2007-10-29 14:34:34 · update #1
No I dont.
Allow me to elaborate.
I want life in my relationships.
I want happy times and bad times.
I want to feel the sunrise with a smile, I want to feel angry when its time to be angry, I to feel sad when its time to feel sad, I want to feel romantic and moved to poetic verse, sexy, sassy and the rest ..... I want, neigh, I demand life, nothing short nothing less.
If I cant have that - I want nothing of it.
But then I dont think the duty too each other is to make each other happy - thats impossible, thats like saying if you dont keep me in one emotion then I m going to dump you. How harsh. How ..disposable. I think its about caring and trying, effort.
Maybe Im just weird - I sure feel that way looking at the other answers.
2007-10-29 15:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Andy C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my own personal opionion, I would have to say that yes people want to be happy in relationships but we end up getting into relationships before we are really happy with ourselves. It' pretty simple, we meet, make eachother really happy, we want to commit and lock it in, and then we grow and realize that we are not even the people that we thought we were let alone everyone else around and then there is the thought that maybe some people really never even look at themselves because they are getting to caught up in the world around them but at the same time they are maturing because it is inevitable unless you are just a rock sitten there waiting for something to move you or change your day in some way. People can become less appealing the more you look at them. It's all a state of mind. If you want to see negative, you will, and vice versa with a little positive in there. The question is can we actually be happy in a relationship that is not exactly perfect. Yes. Learn some boundaries for yourself. It is part of being selfish. If you are truly selfish than yes you would want to be in a relationship because someone else would have to do the work. There are positives to being selfish, just know where that boundary is.
2007-10-29 21:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by johnnbubba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes into a relationship wanting to be happy, but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way... but they end up forcing themselves to stay together for face, children, finacial reasons.. whatever. My guy and I have been together awhile.. we are a perfectly happy, but we have a strange relationship. Neither one of us are jealous, or controlling... we trust each other and we communicate. We don't yell or scream, or really fight so much as debate and come to a compromise. He can go out until 4am or not come home at all and I don't get mad, as long as I know where he is, and I can get ahold of him if I need to. The same goes for me. We trust each other. I know this may not seem like a strange relationship, but look at is as compared to others....lol.
2007-10-29 21:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by cresentrosetat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who doesn't want to be happy? We're all looking for that special someone.. it's not easy. Sometimes you have to go through several break ups to know what it is you're looking for. No one finds "the one" the first time around. It's a learning experience all together. If you ask me, people are busy trying to find someone to MAKE them happy. Happiness comes from within. Finding the RIGHT person to share your happiness with takes some work.
2007-10-29 21:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people generally want to be happy, but they want it to come easy. They don't want to put in the time and work it takes to make a successful marriage. That's why the divorce rate in America is so high. Society has made it easy to say "I don't love you anymore, lets get a divorce", with no question asked. They just don't happen by osmosis, people have to really work at the success of a productive and happy marriage.
2007-10-29 21:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW I DO...
but i have learned that sacrifice and selflessness is how that is accomplished
in theory:
if the father focuses ALL his efforts on his wife and kids then he will get the same attn in return
if the mother gives ALL her efforts to her husband and kids then SHE too will get that back in return
if the kids do everything they can for their parents then they too will get more out of it...
BUT the key is...to be sincere and genuine...if this becomes a ploy or manipulative..THEN it is problematic and doesn't work..
2007-10-29 21:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is very important to set boundary's early into a relationship. We teach other how to treat us by what we are willing to accept. It is not your responsibility to make any one other than your self happy. One should lead by example, you treat people with the respect that you your self would like.If some one is disrespectful you ask them? Do I treat you this way?and you let them know that their behavior is not acceptable.You have to let people know that you feel that you need to be treated with respect, you send them away and you let them know to come back when they learn to treat people with respect.
2007-10-29 21:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Super Star 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see what you mean. I think most people want to be happy, but their selfishness gets in the way.
2007-10-29 21:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be happy? That'd be so boring. Gee. I wish I had lives like other people here. Like digging myself a hole so goddamn deep because of my stupidity that I can't get out. Then I could blame everyone around me for my screw ups and then come here and ask for advice. And even get beat up by people like me (and you'd better check my friend's list because there are alot of us out here) and get angry because our faults are pointed out to us.
So..hell. Whats the fun in being happy? Gotta have spice in your life huh?
2007-10-29 21:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think people definetly want to be happy but alot of them just dont know how...they get so caught up trying to find "the one" that they cant accept the flaws of others and try to enjoy what is in front of them
2007-10-29 21:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by ~blue bear~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋