What in your opinion...?

Question

...makes someone good in bed?

and what makes someone bad?

Answer 1

good=enthusiastic bad=prudeish/totally inhibited

Answer 2

A person is good in bed by how well they are willing to see to it their partner gets pleasure as well as themselves. I'm discussing heterosexual couples in this case, I know nothing about gays but I assume the requirements would be similar.

For a man, it means knowing how to do all the things he can to bring her to orgasm, preferrably first (because he's almost automatically going to get pleasure just from intercourse, and for a lot of guys, once they've gotten what they want they're not very likely to do much for her).

A woman almost never gets pleasure from vaginal intercourse alone, he needs to do foreplay to be sure she lubricates, then he needs to use his hands to stimulate her, and if she doesn't mind, perform oral sex on her (some women find it too personal or too personal with a specific guy). Once he's satisfied her, then he can have his fun. If he's really good, he might even figure a way to give her pleasure during intercourse (not always easy to do). Also, when he is moving inside her, finding out what speed and force she likes. For some women, they'd like it better if the guy wasn't so fast, or some do like it harder, or less forceful, or not as deep, or deeper.

For a woman, letting him know what he's doing right and wrong as far as pleasing her. And perhaps doing things that give him more pleasure. Like moving during sex. If he's been good at giving her pleasure, perhaps reward him with oral sex too.

Being bad in bed means either considering sex a "chore" (for a woman), who just lets a guy pound on her, probably because she doesn't know how to be sure she gets pleasure, so she doesn't enjoy what's happening and just does it to keep a man around.

For a man, it's not caring about her pleasure, he just pressures her to hurry up and get ready, once she's lubricated (if he even is willing to wait that long), he gets on top of her, pounds her like he's trying to reproduce the 78rpm phonorecord of the Anvil Chorus, and when he's finished, rolls off, takes a shower and leaves, or rolls off and goes to sleep, just having had a marvelous time, and leaving her feeling unsatisfied and used.

I think I can sum all of it up by willing to communicate and discover what the other person likes.

Answer 3

I think to be good, you have to be an explorer. I mean, when I am with a lady, the typical act of love making, must be made broader. I will probably get a violation for this answer, but it is what I think. To be bad, in the sack, you just have to live by the old saying, "Wham, bam, thank you, Ma'am." I hope those that hate, will respect my answer. Rock On, Roz!

Answer 4

Passion and Stamina

Closed-mindedness

Answer 5

Generosity.

Answer 6

Good:: Positive outlook on the whole thing/willing to try anything without complaining

Bad::Negativity/Unwillingness to try new things

Answer 7

Good = unselfish,uninhabited. Bad = selfish, restricted.

Answer 8

Good= Open to anything

Bad = Stuffy

Answer 9

It takes two.... It's kinda like a chemical thing I guess... you both have to be into it for it to be really good.

Answer 10

someone that really cares for that person, someone that doesn't care Good question