Are there any circumstances under which you would not confront your spouse if you suspected they were cheating?
2007-10-29 12:28:13 · 17 answers · asked by Zoe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would first prepare yourself emotionally for the answer, and depending on your family situation decide whether or not it would be an acceptable situation to you as a person if it is true to stay in the marriage if you went through counselling together, or if you would not be able to forgive even if they were willing to admit their betrayal and disrespect of you then think about what steps would need to be taken if you were to split up.
Also if there is no proof it might be prudent to try and be a little more sure of the situation before you accuse them of something like this because unfounded accusations can cause a relationship to deteriorate very quickly. In the meantime avoid intimacy unless you know for sure that he or she would be practicing safe s-x with the other party.
I truly hope for your sake that this is not happening to you.
2007-10-29 12:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by maybyesmaybno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You be surprised just how many people don't confront their spouses when they know they are being cheated on. My father in-law was one who did not confront his wife. All these years she thought she had gotten away with it up until the day she dead she had know idea that I knew her husband knew and my husband also knew. So many times i wanted to say that i knew about her sleeping with another man a cop to be exact for over 5 years she did this. Her husband my father in-law is the most sweetest and kind man i have ever none.
My father in-law didn't say anything because he was afraid of losing her and his kids which was 5 and 2 at the time. He loved this woman so much she was his first they both were virgins when they married each other. This was back in the late 50's so a woman who did that was really looked down upon. My father in-law has been suffering for years over this and i was the only one he felt comfortable enough to talk to about it. I still can't believe he let her think she got over on him.I told him i would have said something to her i wouldn't of let her think she got away with it like she did.
2007-10-29 20:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't confront your spouce if you SUSPECT. That disrupts the trust between the two of you. Keep your suspisions to yourself until you know for sure. You had better be sure before you open your mouth. Or he'll never view you the same. If he feels you don't trust him when he HAS been faithful, you have given him reason to not be trustworthy any longer. It is infuriating for a man to be trustworthy, support his family, work hard and handle the stress of life and his wife distrusts him because she is insecure. BE SURE. Then let "er rip. Let him have it.
2007-10-29 19:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by tammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if there is not enough proof. You can't accuse someone under suspicion, there has to be proof. So if one confronts their spouse and nothing is going on, this can cause a real problem. Get proof first!
2007-10-29 19:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have hard evidence. Cheaters are often compulsive liars-that is how they get away with everything. If you just open your mouth because you suspect something, how many people male or female do you really think would say : "yes, you are right honey, I am cheating on you" ?
2007-10-29 22:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be 100 % sure not just suspecting. Get your ducks in a row. If you investigate for awhile you can have PROOF!
2007-10-29 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say nothing if my spouse had lied to me in the past, and avoided confrontation by being secretive. i would instead do my own investigation so i would know for sure.
2007-10-29 19:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know there shouldn't be any circumstance that would prolong the inevitable, however...i could see being terminally ill or having some other thing wrong in ones body and also unfortunately kids/family...so it sucks but there are circumstances
blessings...i wish you the best
2007-10-29 19:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt want to admit that the person that you love so much would cheat on you with probably someone that is a trampy skank or the good looking guy thats prob has too many diseases to mention.... Maybe???
2007-10-29 19:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by ~Nik~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason I would not say anything is because I would be gathering evidence for the divorce and stashing back money to pay for it. Toss him to the curb. Why should he have any warning by saying anything to him?
2007-10-29 19:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Ava 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋