Rephrasing When 2 people are in love like I and my partner disagree or argue for nothing.Its not that we have issues,not that we hate eachother,not that theres problem.We just argue over nothing.My partner starts it.Example when we are writing to each other i talked about meeting up after work he said taking advantage and teasing me b****.Is this like dirty talk before passionate lovemaking or something?Im in my 20s professional working.My partner is in 30s professional educated powerful rich man busy,no parents has had gfs in past,we fell in love.No cheating,we are together and in love.Why does partner talk that way for no reason yet love me like crazy,intimacy is good,we have good life together.No abuse we are married.
2007-10-29 12:06:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1.Tell him calling ***** etc is not acceptable AT ALL to u.Period.
2.Next time he does that tell him its called abuse.
3.Let him talk to someone or get help about it
4.Just to check hes over it push his buttons and check his reactions.
You will have your answer.
2007-10-30 11:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are unclear about ALL the abuses that are out there. I want to say that it's a "mild" case of verbal or (I believe) emotional abuse, but there is no such thing as a "mild" case of abuse. Abuse is unacceptable in ANY form. You said your relationship was good, so I don't want to put a damper on that, but PLEASE do not ignore it. Abuse is treatable, if everyone is willing to work on it. I am 40, I've seen alot. I've seen (First hand) the abuse escalate from "mild" to severe, or out of control when it wasn't addressed. I want to give you something positive also. I have seen it change when it wasn't tolerated. You don't have to say the word "abuse" when you talk to him, you can just tell him how it makes you feel, and if he says anything like "You can't take a joke" or "You're being a woos" or makes a noise and just walks away from you (Completely disregarding your feelings) then you have a problem, and (If it were me) I would then mention the word "abuse" (Like shock value-intervention). If your relationship is good, like you say it is, then don't give up, but PLEASE do not ever give up any part of WHO YOU ARE for any kind of mistreatment from anyone.
Good luck, and
have a wonderful, wonderful day.
2007-10-29 19:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rowena S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to sit down with him and have a little talk. I hate to be called a ***** for one. I love being talked dirty to, but I am not sure this is dirty talk, like sexy, turn me on talk. he should have said something like, OK baby, meet me with nothing on but a smile and we'll get a quickie. LOL! I think this is sexy talk don't you. Let him know how you are feeling or even your concerns. Sounds like you have a wonderful marriage and he is possibly just trying to be funny, and does not realize that you just don't know why he says such off the wall things like that. maybe, sometimes when someone is so highly educated they seem to not know the difference between funny and sarcastic. I hope you figure him out. best of luck dear. remember break it to him gently. again I am going to tell you my old saying; sometimes you feel like you could eat them, and sometimes you wish you had of. LOL! LOL! <3 <3 <3
2007-10-29 19:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lordy honey, slow down and take a deep breath. I can't figure out what exactly you are asking.
People always bicker, but if you are constantly being, and feeling belittled, for no definite,apparent reason then maybe you need to examine what the benefits of this relationship are,and I would suggest you both seek counseling togther.
2007-10-29 19:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by sreshowtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is playing around with you,why not play back your married so have some fun with him. Act like your strangers meeting for the first time. Ask him what he would like you to do to him. He will take it from there.
Tell him to leave the b word out next time that's not cool to say that to you.
2007-10-29 19:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguments about nothing are a big sign of power struggles.
Take a hard look at your motivation to argue about items of little consequence.
2007-10-29 19:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let him know it bothers you. It sounds like he's doing it to talk dirty to you so he probably doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want my bf calling me a B---- under ANY circumstance!!
2007-10-29 19:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by LD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him it bothers you, he should understand. Also, everyone has their annoying habits, and some of his habits you will have to ignore. Both of you have to adapt to the relationship.
2007-10-29 19:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like foreplay to me.
2007-10-29 19:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like he just has an ego not that he should use those words it is disrespectful talk to him and see what happens
2007-10-29 19:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by JOHN H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋