So our whole relationship started off bc i just gave in and decided that maybe there could be something between us. He used to call me everyday and buy little gifts when he went out of town....NOW he calls only sometimes and he doesnt come visit me as much as he did in the beggining "we live two hours apart" when i ask him if he has lost intrest he tries to reassure me that he truley loves me and that i'm the only one that he loves!!!! So is it the fact we've been together so long or has he truley gotten tired of me.... what could i do to catch his attention again and spark things back up ?
2007-10-29 12:02:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this happens with a lot of guys. distance can really hurt relationships i know a little bit about that because in the Marines when everyone is on deployment the divorce rate is a ridiculous 80 %. It doesn't sound like he's cheating on you though but do you ever go visit him? do you ever buy him gifts or do special things for him? relationships are a team of 2. he might just be tired of always going to see you when you don't go and see him. he might not have the money for the gas and the gifts. just start doing little things like if you cook do that. guys love it when their woman cooks for them it shows you will put in a little time for them. does he clean alot? if so surprise him and clean his bathroom or something while he's asleep trust me he'll appreciate it! anyway just look at little tiny things he does and see if you can help. don't ask him if he wants help just go do it and make it seem like no big deal ya know. if he loves you those sparks will definitly come back. (also if you don't go visit him that often show up one day with out warning .launderey under a coat will bring back some serious sparks, that is every guys fantasy!) i hope this helps.
2007-10-29 12:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by rex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he only went after you because it was a challenge, and now that he has you he is no longer interested. He probably has someone else, I hope not, but you know men.
Hard to say what could spark things up again since you live so far away. Maybe plan a special weekend getaway with just the two of you.
How long have you been together?
2007-10-29 12:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well… I can say, as a man… I have had times when I’m working and traveling I don’t get to call at all times of the day. This could go for a week sometimes more. My wife knew this was part of my job, and even brought it up to me. I hadn’t done anything wrong, but she still had thoughts I had. This went on for quite a while. So I eventually took her with me on one of my work trips. And she saw what I did, by the time I finished; I was ready to crash for the night… this went on for the whole week. So then she understood, and it didn’t come up again. I eventually left that company so I could be at home more with my wife and newborn.
One of the things she did find when I changed jobs was a photo book I carried everywhere I traveled. It was photos of her, this way I always had her with me no matter where I was. I carried them in my coat pocket so she was close to me.
So… talk to him and see, it might not be what you fear.
2007-10-29 12:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by kib_edward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me keep this simple. Men are not so complex. When they REALLY like women they want to be around them as much as possible. They will go out of their way to see them and make time for them even if they have a busy schedule. When they stop doing what they used to then you should be worried, men a lot of times are weak and they don't like being the one to breakup with the girl so they will get distant and not make effort to create conflict to get the girl to break it off with them. I would say more than likely this guy wants to move on cheating or not. Sorry :(
2007-10-29 12:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by loseit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure he knows exactly how you feel. Sometime people do not realize how much something means to the other person. If he is not willing to make more of an effort after this you need to do something one way or the other.
2007-10-29 12:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by forme_75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try a new hair style and go for a make over to a new appearance that not only gains his attention to you as a woman, but it also makes you feel 100% better about yourself.
2007-10-29 12:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon that's easy just tell him you are going out when he does call you,when he ask who you are going out with just say some friends you don't no them. Keep doing that until he ask you if you are losing interest in him then say why should you care you never want to see me. If that doesn't work then he is seeing someone else.
2007-10-29 12:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know well there are signs like numbers and him leaving early and come home late....Phone calls late at night and him getting made when you ask him about it but maybe he is not cheating on you and he is busy with life. You just can't think he is cheat. Just think positive about him and erase the negative thinking
2007-10-29 13:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he seems distant and he wasn't that way before there is a reason and the reason is he may be seeing someone else, but doesn't want to burn his bridges with u. if a man truly loves u he is going to be calling u constantly and wanting to be with u, unless he is seeing someone else at the same time.
2007-10-29 12:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your partner will start acting different talking to you different
2007-10-29 12:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋