I have spoken to his head of year( year 10) but I've found that it's a certain couple of teachers who are the problem. He has been "on report" countless times,allegedly to help him focus, but all we get is sarcastic, unhelpful comments from idiots who are completely missing the point and should know better. They critisise him constantly, so he shuts off, and no wonder, yet if I try and point this out, they all band together and it's he who is the problem. Is there anyone else who I can get help from to deal with this. He's really starting to struggle with his GCSE work and is getting behind.
2007-10-29 11:31:29 · 13 answers · asked by fairycakes1999 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
He's not hyperactive and hasn't been diagnosed with a disorder. I think it's a clash of personalities to a certain extent but the attitude of the school doesn't help him.
2007-10-29 11:51:57 · update #1
It is either a clash of personalities or you could have him assesed as it may be ADD attention deficit disorder or a form of it may be brought on by stress from a teacher or teachers due to the negative eedback they are giving him. He must feel under enormous stress being treated in this way and in effect the staff are ruining his future. If I were you I would take it further with the school and if they are unhelpful I would go further as you cannot repeat a child's history
2007-10-31 12:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by PAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I will not be as insensitive as some using this site! As when you ask a serious question you often get stupidity in return!
There is obviously something on your sons mind and I'm afraid your going to have to dig to find out what. All I can do is suggest a few things I believe could be the cause.
* I know of a few people that struggled all the way through school purely as a result of clashing with the teachers. This can be sorted and involves you stamping your feet until the people that matter hear you.
*There could be an underlying problem such as learning difficulties, attention problems or even a medical issue that is hindering progress. All of which can be sorted.
My own schooling may even be of some help as I really didn't care about any subjects until they tapped into me and found things to stimulate my brain. And from that moment I got my butt into gear and passed exams, went to college and now run my own business.
Everyone is good at something and it may just be a case of his school is failing to find his "thing" and push him on.
2007-10-29 12:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really is the teachers, you should tell them you'll write to the school board and report them. Have your son keep a private journal that only he, you and perhaps the school head have access to, documenting the comments being given by these teachers and any physical attributes being warranted (ie: "whackings.") Also have him keep track of how the teachers treat other students as compared to how they treat him. (Do they "rat" on him for every mishap and get rewarded for it?) After two weeks, if you believe the situation has worsened, contact the school board with the journal as evidence of what has been happening and let them take it from there. The teachers, not your son, are the ones who need to be disciplined.
2007-10-29 11:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to the school and ask them to put him on the special needs register..they have to do this. State your reasons for asking for this ie His lack of concentration seems to get him into trouble. They then need to keep an eye on him and you can ask how he's getting on at any point, not only when he's put on report.! None of his friends need know he's on the register and it gets him the assessments and help he might need. Teacher clashes do happen so this mayb the problem but most kids play up when not being understood...so this would be my first step. The school would also realise your saying this may be a problem with my son, so help me sort it and also that your a worried parent, who wants to help him not blame or ignore, as they may see it.
2007-10-29 11:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to the SENCO ? if you're of the opinion that his educational needs are not being met, you have the right to ask for an individual assessment and IEP to which all of the teachers are bound to agree. This would put him on the special educational needs register (most kids go on it at some point in their education, usually short term as a result of emotional changes) If you still have problems with individual teachers after that, write to the Head, the Governers and the LEA and ask why the IEP isn't being adhered to and whether the teachers concerned are facing any disciplinary action for failing to comply with the codes of practice for special educational needs.
That usually wakes them up!
2007-10-29 11:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ring of Uranus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having problems like this that cant be resolved at the school - my son used to be the same - then I would go to your local Education Authority. They will help you to sort this out.
My son was excluded two days before an iT exam for much the same reason in his last year at school and he missed the exam. I complained so loud that he got to take it two days after the other kids and got a great result.
Being critised by the peole who teach you is demeaning and should not happen take action now for your sons sake.
2007-10-29 11:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 20:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on you people. I'ts not neccesarily the 'son'. It actually could be the teachers. Sometimes there's a personality conflict. Adults are supposed to deal with that but sometimes they dont'.
Could he take those courses online?
You can find out what he needs to graduate, keep track, and he can take some thing online. At least in the US he can.
2007-10-29 11:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by pansyblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your son wear glasses? if not u might want to ge this eyes checked my daughter had the same problem. talking to the teachers does not help they will always stick together. try taking him to your family doctor he might beable to recommend an ADHD test not saying that he would need one but this would just to make sure as a precaution. hope i helped.
2007-10-29 11:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by April P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had ADHD surely it would have been picked up before now. Are you sure he's not just a naughtey boy? Sometimes Mum is the last one to see it!
2007-10-29 11:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by ashnannie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋