2007-10-29 11:24:34 · 20 answers · asked by Newlywed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a bad idea, there is not really any need for it. Now that I have moved all my stuff out of my ex's place and settled the minor outstanding financial issue I have cut off contact with my ex wife-not because I hate her but I just don't see what good can come of it and more importantly I do it out of respect for my partner.
2007-10-29 11:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ex lovers= NO! ex spouces= maybe. If no kids involved I suppose it would be ok to have a chat every now and then. All it means is that they care about each other and they are not bad people. Wanting to make sure someone you care about but are not in love with anymore is doing well is a good thing but if it seems to be a every day kinda thing I might would get a bit nosy. Start asking questions. No chatting with ex lovers at all.
2007-10-29 19:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell ou something. My marriage is over because of this exact thing. My husband just couldn't stop having a relationship with her. They were only friends but it hurt me. I didn't want or expect him to completely forget about her because they had a past. She would call him all of the time and they would chat. When she was in a crisis he ran to her rescue. After we got married it slowed down a lot but he still "played husband" to her and it was painful for me. I asked him to stop and he thought I was being too sensitive. Well he learned the hard way. Our divorce proceedings begin in January. If there are no children or property involved. Remain civil if you want, but do not remain "friends". I agree with the others, it will only cause problems.
2007-10-29 18:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you have no children ..It's a very bad idea. It will just cause problems. If you really love the person your married to then cut all ties with the x spouse and x lover. It would be for the best.
2007-10-29 18:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO! It's bad form. I have to work with an ex and I'm starting to wonder if my job is worth it because I know although my boyfriend is understanding, he CAN'T think this is a good thing. That said, the past is the past. You have to move forward and leave it there. Communicating with an ex can only foster insecurities and take something away from the marriage.
2007-10-29 18:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the person. I've stayed in touch with my former spouse - we have no ill feelings towards each other, and remained friends in spite of moving on relationship-wise.
P.S. Together for 5 years, divorced for 7 years.
2007-10-29 18:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it could cause more problems in a new relationship. But then again, if it was just friends and there were no emotional attachments involved, it couldn't hurt to be friends. I guess it depends on the circumstances. It could be good or bad...either way. Jealousy is just to big of an issue in our world today. Ya' think???
2007-10-29 18:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. That's stupid. They're ex's. Keep it the past. You'll ruin your marriage that way.
Your exes are considered a did that, done that person and lessons learned so you move on.
2007-10-29 18:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Fiance and I both stay in touch with our ex's. We are comfortable enough in our relationship that neither of us feel threatened by the ex's. I've eaten dinner with his ex wife and he with my ex husband. Just because you divorce you don't have to hate each other. Most relationships start as a friendship. My relationship with my ex is again a friendship.
2007-10-29 18:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
What would be the point? It may be an issue for the next person in your life.
2007-10-29 18:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋