the person in question has once assaulted my wife and has vandalised our property and has been prosecuted for the latter offence my wife keeps throwing him out but then taking him back against my wishes what can i do
2007-10-29 11:04:00 · 13 answers · asked by b beru 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to be the strong one in this and she may back you up even if she might otherwise let him back. He may have issues with the fact his parents are divorced and she has remarried but that doesn't excuse his behavior. Get a restraining order to keep him away until and unless he gets some counseling for anger management
2007-10-29 11:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? If he is 18 or older you can kick him out . Have a restraing order put on him and tell your wife it's for the better. Nobody should be abused by anybody. Let alone a husband or a son. And if he is not 18 or older then go to the courts and see what you can do .. He needs help ASAP before he get's married he will ened up doing the same thing to his future wife.
2007-10-29 11:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I klnow this is going to hurt your wife but you need to sit her down and talk to her and tell her that both of you are going to have to get a restraining order for you stepson becuase he is violent and abusive and you can not have this and if he comes around he will go to jail. Your wife needs to go to conseling with him find out what is wrong don't ingnore he is screaming for help and you need to help him and if this does not work then I suggest you send him to boot camp look at it online.
2007-10-29 11:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have every right to change the locks on the door and not allow him back in. If she continues to let him back in after being abusive I suggest changing the locks and not letting her back in or you can always move on and get your half of the house when it gets sold. I would call the police the next time he is there and gets violent or abusive. You wife evedentally has some deep seated problems that need to be resolved.
2007-10-29 11:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife it's either him or you as you refuse to stay in the same house with a violent person.
2007-10-29 11:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to counseling so she can see that she is not doing him any favors. Her needs tough love and a swift kick in the ***. Letting him walk on you and you wife is not helping him.
2007-10-29 14:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Timbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd talk to a lawyer about this and get papers drawn up, how old is this darling?? Call the cops next time and talk to your wife this has to stop now, it will destroy your marriage.
2007-10-29 11:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep - sounds like ultimatum time. Tell her if she thinks it's okay to live with such a person's ways, then she can move her *** out and go and find herself...and him a place to live.
At the same time you give your ultimatum, give him ONE last chance, tell him and her he has it and stick to your guns if he messes up this last time.
2007-10-29 11:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur wife she has to start giving him tough love by throwin him out an maybe THEN he might start respectin her! Good luck, I feel for you!
2007-10-29 12:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by TC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the above
you should call your wife's bluff kick him out
desperate times for desperate measures
sometimes you do have to be cruel to be kind
good luck!!!
2007-10-29 11:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋