How come we can't stay together anymore? We get in relationships and then let the smallest issues send us running away from each other. Look at the old people they are married 50, 60, even 70 years. What are the causes of so much fighting between men and women now? Is this a stupid question?
2007-10-29 10:53:28 · 8 answers · asked by drglizard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is because they come from a generation that actually taught their children by example and words about what marriage is really all about and how to have a lasting relationship. So much has changed thru out the years. Some of these people may have come from families that have divorce in them, violence, yelling, parents that don't talk to their kids heart to heart, roles are being reversed, no Father figures or no Mother figures, schools and what they teach, and the list goes on. Look at the world we live in and how much it has changed and what society deems as acceptable and there is your answer.
2007-10-29 11:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they have ever gotten along or will, but they just didn't give up as easily. No marriage is perfect. Even for those who have been together 50+ years. To many people now find it easier to run, then to stay and work things out. And to many people don't take their marriage vows as serious as they should either.
And most fight over money. That can put the biggest strain on a marriage.
That is why I am 100% against credit cards, everything I have I paid cash for, even my van. So we don't have that many fights over money, because he is the same way. Of course I did get a little mad at him when he went out today and bought a new laptop, and didn't call me first. I am sure I would have found it on sale somewhere lol
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2016-06-01 06:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least part of the reason is that women have so many more options now. Women used to be pressured into staying in relationships for the children, for monitary support, & because divorce was looked down on. Now women have careers & can support ourselves & we can decide what is best for us & for our children. I don't think women are putting up with the &*%$ that they used to. If they are not happy, its easy to get up & start over.
By the way I'm a married woman who occasionally fights over small things, but I would never leave my husband over them. But I certainly won't stay married if there is good reason to leave (abuse, infidelity, etc ...)
2007-10-29 11:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Maya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people who have made it through several decades are the successful, but there were a lot of unsuccessful ones. There were failed marriages and divorce. In fact, after WWII there were a whole slew of divorces between women and returning servicemen. My mom said that when she was young and there wasn't much divorce, her friends' parents would fight like crazy, nasty screaming, throwing match kind of fighting. People just didn't really air their dirty laundry in public in those days. marriage and sex were considered people's private business. Marriage was difficult to get out of. It was seen as a complete social disgrace not only the man and woman involved but to their children.
2007-10-29 11:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cybele 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put all the older people who are married a long time on a pedestal.
Some of them had crummy marriages with abuse, cheating, etc.....but they stayed because that's what they thought you should do.
Today I think people get married much too quickly....and have children too quickly....I think they don't take the time to really find out about each other first.
We're living in a "microwave" world and relationships should be "crock-pot"....before saying "I Do".
2007-10-29 11:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm only replying to say, daljack, you rock. Totally awesome analogy! And I agree with everything he said. That's why I'm not getting into relationships anymore until college.
2007-10-29 11:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by C-Puff! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfishness is the problem, and no real commitment. They don't mean the wedding vows when they say them.
2007-10-29 11:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋