My son's dad remarried and stationed in another state. Zack is going on a vist for christmas. But matt wants him longer. Now reallistically I know I need that time to get things together at home. On the otherhand, Im nervous........my son is 3 has not been away from home more than 2 weeks, and he be with my ex's new wife. I know Im the mother, I know nothing will change that. Honestly she has not made a good impression on me... What advice can others that have been through this give me, to make me at ease?
2007-10-29 10:45:40 · 2 answers · asked by prettiekittie1983 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually I think your competely justified and that your also being pretty fair. Really 3 years old is a little young to send a kiddo to live with a dad for 2 weeks, its asking alot. If he wants to be a bigger part he needs to be willing to LIVE AROUND YOU!!! Since he doesn't have that choice, HE has to be flexiable. HIM asking your family to be more flexible, a 3 year old to be more flexible is COMPETELY unfair and I get a good idea why you left his guy, or why you should feel glad he left you. But the fact is those frist 5 years all he needs is stablity and love, after that, the man whats to make an impression, let him, but the point here is to sort of keep up a fantasy, show that kiddo in the realm of feelings that love can give stability. This situation really is going to just leave him with conflicted feelings, and a feeling he is to be blamed for this. In other words, he doesn't what the hassle ether, he's 3, he wants love, daddy what to see him, he NEEDS to GO see him, not the other way around, thats just a tad bit cruel and your right to be nervious.
2007-11-02 09:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will change it you have to except things the way they are unless you fear for your sons very well being.
No matter what you try or do, the ex's new woman will never make a good impression, even if you start to get a long with her, something will always be in the back of your mind not to trust her. Why, b/c women are territorial creatures and we dont like other women messing with whats ours. We have a divine right and instinct to protect what is ours, she threatens that even if it is ever so minutely.
Pay attention, what, listen, do what right by our child, screw everyone else.
2007-10-29 17:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋