So I'm watching t.v., and they are discussing paternity fraud. Basically when someone has an affair and the other party is unknowing and then they are forced to pay child support. They are discussing two sides. This man unknowingly raised another man's child for 10 years and then they got divorced. It was brought to his attention that the child might now be his. He got a paternity test and the child was not his. Yet the courts basically said that he had already started raising the child so he needed to finish and keep paying child support. The didn't suggest that the woman find the real father. I don't think that a man should have to continue to pay child support for a child that is not his. If he voluntarily does it, that a different story. But why should he have to pay for the other party's deceit? Why should he have to raise another man's child? What is your point of view?
2007-10-29 09:24:10 · 8 answers · asked by Speak 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I believe, as a dad that it is unfair to make him continue to pay child support without a choice. If the father chooses to retain his parental rights he has to continue with child support. If he does not want his parental rights then his child support obligation should be ceased. It would also be a waste of time try to make the mother reimburse the alleged father for money spent ( $20,000-$100,000) but a FAIR exchange would be to make paternity testing MANDATORY for all children born to married parents or not. The mother could not bar him from getting the test taken and the only way it would not be taken if the father signs a waiver saying he does not want to know and if he finds out later that it is not his child then he would have waived his right to know and that would be that. His choice that he needs to live with it
There are too many childen being born and the fathers are being lied to which causes heartache, pain and tremendous damage to the child. Why wait until the child is 15 and he needs a blood transfusion and it all comes out then. Better to know upfront. The man has no doubts and the family will be secure.
If it is acceptable to continue to make a man who is not the biological father continue to pay. It should be equally open to have a paternity test completed before the birth certificate is signed. A man can request that but it usually would signal the break-up of the relationship. It would bring up trust issues and attack the bedrock of the relationship but 30% of ALL children tested are not the biological children of the men that they were presumed to be. There is a 1 in 3 chance for every man in the country that the child may not be his. Scary odds. I have 4 kids. Hmm..
2007-10-29 09:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definitely shouldn't have to pay child support any more. Although the child is now 10, I would like to think the guy would somehow still make himself financially involved, like give the child an allowance, take him/her shopping for clothes and etc. If the woman misses the money, then she should contact the real father and make him pay up. I also disagree with back child support for the biological father in this sort of circumstance. If he didn't know that he had a child, why should he have to pay for what he didn't know? Two different issues but ladies with this sort of indecency would probably try to get the biological father for back child support.
2007-10-29 09:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court system never got involved in our situation but this happened to my husband and me. One of his ex girlfriend's had us raising her child as my husband's even though the paternity test showed he didn't belong to him. We had be taking care of him since he was two and a half, which is when we got married. We paid for half of everything no questions asked.
She was a longtime family friend and it had been a one night stand. She had never even come forth about him possibly being my husband's child until she found out I was expecting our first child. Then she threw fits to have a test and would never go through with it, even though she was only going to have to pay for the testing of herself and half of her son's.
She finally did allow us to have it done when he was turning 8 and it showed there was no way he belonged to my husband but we stuck it out for the child's sake until her new husband began abusing him. We were getting all kinds of phone calls, letters and emails about the things happening to him, even in public.
I finally couldn't do it anymore so then I told him the truth. I had to do it so he would understand that we had no legal rights to take him away and our own children were hurting because we were unable to help him. She wouldn't allow us any contact with him for almost a year. He is now 19 and still comes to us his Dad and Mama as he calls us. I wish you all luck in this terrible situation. It won't be easy. Especially on the child!
2007-10-29 09:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aprilbride 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you but if he loves the child and wants to continue to be part of his life as a father figure something could be worked out financially.
2007-10-29 09:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by sammy1980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he should have to pay child support for a child thats not his. Unless he wants to. But he shouldnt have to pay if the child aint his.
2007-10-29 09:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Scott G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion EVERY child should have a paternity test done at birth
2007-10-29 09:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Easy. Don't have sex. No sex = no unwanted children = no child support.
2007-10-29 09:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by mustagme 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you. It should be up to him. He should not be obligated. That is just wrong.
2007-10-29 09:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋