what do you do when you know you have to wait two years for something?

Question

and alone at that...when you know if you dont hang in there for another two years you might die or do something you seriously will regret for the rest of your life and might also ruin the rest of your life

how do you deal with it? how do you keep yourself patient?

its more of a mental problem...im not gonna die due to a chronic illness or anything, but more like a never ending situation that i can't do anything about

Answer 1

That annoying carch-phrase, "Instant Gratification" (and all that it stands for) has become so much a part of our modern lives, that we tend to forget other viewpoints like "Anything wortth having is worth waiting for."

For the most part, any REALLY useful advice I could give you would be based on your circumstances if I knew them, but since I don't, I'll have to wing it with some general ideas.

<> Hobbies and interests.
Hobbies are a great time-passer! If it is a constructive or artistic hobby, you will have lots of pleasant end-products to show for your time and efforts.
Interests are good, too. Just find something that interests you and read, research and study all you can about it. This is a good way to pass time, too.

<> Get out and around more (If your situation is such that you can do so.).
Go places and do things more - like various local events such as expos, ethnic food fairs, farmer's markets, etc. Basically whatever presents itself in your area. Go to movies, stage plays and similar events. Go for long walks. If there is no good place to walk in your neighborhood, then take a bus to a park that has some good hiking trails.

<> Yoga and meditation are really good - and good for you, too.

<> THINK about something you wanted TWO YEARS AGO, but have NOW, and NEVER lose sight of the fact that those two years WILL go by, ANYWAY. If you do the right thing NOW and conduct your life in the right way NOW, you will have whatever it is that you want when those two years are up.
If you blow it (whatever "it" may be) now, those two years will STILL pass, but you'll no longer have (whatever it is) to look forward to when they do.

Answer 2

If it's something you HAVE to do - like it's life-threatening, or it's something you really want, but have no control over - you wait.

I would try to find something to do in that time to help keep me busy. Depending on where I was, and what my options were, I might find a project - build a canoe, or try to make the lawn nice, or start taking classes at the local college, or learn to fly, or any of a hundred other things out there. You could travel, for instance, or paint 100 paint-by-number pictures. If it helps in your case, learn about the disease if you're waiting for treatment. If you're waiting for someone to come back, learn about where they are, or maybe study something related to what they are doing. Join a club that you're interested in. Take up a hobby - skiing, boating, biking, computers, painting, building model airplanes. Do something! Anything is better than just sitting in front of the TV.

Answer 3

I really don't know what the problem is that some people have with this. If you know you will eventually get it if you wait the required time, and if it is something you actually want, then that should be sufficient motivation in itself. And knowing that if you don't wait then you mess it up and don't get it, plus will have wasted any time you had put into waiting up until then.

I've known people who were on some list to get something, and others who were on something like probation, and have seen them ruin it all by acting like the wait was too long, like if they couldn't have what they wanted right now then they were being put upon too much. If they would have just endured and gone on with everything else until then, then they would have been fine.

Answer 4

I personally would give up...that is a really long time.


But the best way is to distract yourself from it. Focus entirely on something else and don't dwell on it.

Time will tick by, but then the thing you wait for is not driving you insane.

Answer 5

you find things to keep yourself busy, something productive, it not only keeps you physically and mentally busy, but it will give you a sense of accomplishment. And we need that. It makes us feel worth while.And, you will be amazed at how fast time moves when you have something to focus on.

Answer 6

Go ahead and live your life. Don't worry about it. Enjoy life. Before you know it, the two years will be over.

Answer 7

depends on what your waiting for!
if it is for a goal then deal with it!
if it is for love then that was your choice!