I've tried everything short of having her bumped off which I would never do because it is wrong.
But I even stooped so low as to let this girl think I liked her and I could put up with her hoping my Son would get tired of her and dump her.
He gave her a pre-engagement ring. He cannot give her a engagement ring because he has to get the family ring from me. He says he cares about her, but doesn't think he'll marry her.
Why is he doing this? I've even offered him materialistic items to replace her.
What can I do? I know he isn't the one for him? He just had a baby 12 months ago by someone else and still talks to her and tells her he loves her too?
HELP!!!! I've got a troll in my family and need to lose her!!!
I am not cold and cruel. I've given this girl a lot of chances and she cheats and isn't nice to him!!!
2007-10-29 06:54:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I"ve confronted her when I caught her with another man. She claims she tells my son. I have been so nice to her and opened my house and home up to her. She has cheated 3x's!!!!
When I talked her to at a family barbecue this weekend (being nice in front of everyone) she called me an uptight b****!!!
My Son doesn't see this!!!
2007-10-29 07:07:54 · update #1
so let me get this straight!!
your son was with a girl, had a baby, then got with another girl and is now engaged to the new girl but still has feelings for the old girl and say he wont marry the new girl?? wow! how very confusing!!
i know your only trying to help but this is something he has to do o his own! at least he can see that he doesn't want to marry the new girl so she will be gone eventually (if i got the story right!) he has to make his own mistakes and live with them!
the worst thing a mother can do is suffocate a child (or in this case, adult), he has to make bad decisions, its what will help him develop!!!!
just pray that everything works out!
2007-10-29 07:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say! Have you talked to her instead of your son? What is her point of view in this matter? How old is he? Maybe, it's just a "phase" he's going through? There is only so much we can do as parents but don't give him the ring yet. Wait it out and see! I wish you all the best!
2007-10-29 14:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you talk about her, the more he's gonna like her. He's just with her because of the convenience. He'll wise up. The only reason he'd give her that ring is because he wants to keep her around for a little while longer. :) He told you he isn't going to marry her. He probably won't.
2007-10-29 13:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by vellavelicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I feel sorry for HER. My mother-in-law was the same way and my hsbands family HATED me! I am probably the nicest person I know and did nothing to deserve the hate they poured onto me! You need to stop thinking of yourself and realize that your son is a grown man and doesn't need you to plan out his life for him. Let him go! Who cares if he makes mistakes? You need to let him make his own decisions and learn from his mistakes. Talk about over-bearing! I'll never understand and I have 2 girls!
2007-10-29 14:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kera L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around. The "fiancee" will do herself in eventually, and your son may someday grow a backbone IF you back off and let them live their own shallow, immature lives.
Your son has a child with another woman, if he ever becomes a man that's where his priorities should be. Tell him he's welcome to visit you but leave the Jezebel at his place...
(Horrible thought just now- he doesn't LIVE with his Momma, does he???)
2007-10-29 16:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Beaugrand 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there may not be much you can do but hope that he tires of her soon, She may have called you a ***** because he has told her that he can't give her the engagement ring until you give it to him first. If he loves the mother of his child, you need to urge him to get counseling with her and work that out.
You could go to handwriting wizard.com and learn the basics of handwriting analysis and I am sure you will be able to find something in her handwriting to warn him about.
He has to be the one to make the final decision though.
2007-10-29 15:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were being mean till i read the last sentance, why not try to catch her cheating, or find someone you do like and match her up with your son pay her to take him away from ths b*tch. brainwash him if you have to
be careful that you dont lose your relationship with your son
2007-10-29 14:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your son didnt want to marry her why is he giving her a ring thats pretty low of your son to.and another thing how old is this son?if he is old enough to make desicions about marruage and already made desicion of a baby dont you think he is old enough to make his own desicions wether its a mistake or he will regret it or not.Maybe its time for mommy to back away from this and let him live and learn.
2007-10-29 13:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you try to drive a wedge between them, the closer they will become.
Hey, I'm totally on YOUR side!!!
2007-10-29 14:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mustardseed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should mind your own business before you lose your son to all this .
2007-10-29 14:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by General Leon Pleasant 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋