Hi all I am 35 weeks pregnant and and hit a deer on my way to work this morning. Other than dmaging my car and being really shook up I don't think I hurt anything. I have beenunder alot of stress the past few weeks, my g-pa passed away after fighting cancer a week after we found out my g-ma had it too well unfortunetly she didn't have time to fight it. and passed away monday morning. I watched her gasp for her last breaths I haven't been able to sleep since. I am having horrible back pains and have been since last night. After my incident this morning I noticed a little brownish pink on my panty liner. I have been to the doctor for preterm labor symptoms and I feel like I am driving them crazy w/ all my concerns. But I know being over whelmed w/ stress isn't good for the baby. What should I do and am i over reacting?
2007-10-29 06:09:46 · 49 answers · asked by We're Engaged 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is for Erin....
Obviously you do not have children, do you know the risks of taking a bath so far into the pregnancy? I could get a serious infection. and yes Worse things could happen but when you are pregnant and your hormones are wigging out how am I to stay calm after everythign that has gone on I WATCHED MY GRAND MOTHER DIE! I have held everythign in and stayed calm through my whole pregnancy but I can't do it anymore. it's just too much all at once.
Thanks for eveyone elses answers.
2007-10-29 06:21:06 · update #1
Even if you are over reacting .... who cares? As an expectant mother, I don't think there's such a thing. You have some very valid concerns about stress - both emotional from all you have going on in your life and physical from the accident. If you're not experiencing any real pain, then I wouldn't worry too much - however, I would also recommend calling your doctor and talking to them to be sure. You'll feel better once you check with them - thus lowering the stress that's not good for you. As for driving them crazy - that's what they're there for and no matter how bad you are - I'm sure they've dealt with worse. They would rather you call and ask than not and have a problem, I'm sure.
I'm sorry for your recent losses. As trite as it sounds, try to remember that they're suffering is over and they will always live in your heart. I know that's the only thought that helped me get through the loss of my gmom to cancer a couple years ago.
Good luck and enjoy your new baby!
2007-10-29 06:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by rose1077 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am deeply sorry for the loss of your grandparents. Secondly I want you to take a deep breath and try to relax for just a second. Grief over the loss of a loved one can do weird things to you. Would your grandparents want you and the baby to be going through all of this stress. Probably not so try to relax, please.
You are NOT overreacting. This is your child that you are worried about. The back pains could be pre term labor but htey also might be your body protesting over carrying around all of the extra weight. The brownish pink on your panty liner is the thing that kind of concerns me. I would call and at least talk to someone in the doctors office. If you are worried about buggin them don't be. When I was pregnant I had some problems and was in the office at least once a week from about week 20 and was in the ER 5 times. I apologized once and my OBGYN said that she was her to help me and she would rather I came in a lot instead of me or the baby being really sick and potentially having permanent problems.
Most of all call them and explain. I know here if you are in any type of accident and are pregnant they immediately transport you to the hospital just to be safe.
I will say a prayer for you and your family as they are going through this rough time.
Genessa
2007-10-29 06:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by keetonsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your doctor to sign you off sick for a week or so. The pink stain is probably a "show" which is some of the cervical mucus plug being expelled berfore delivery. This is not uncommon in the later stages of pregnancy. You should also get checked over by your midwife, she will have time and will not poo poo your concerns like some doctors can. but definitely you should not get stressed about work....there are far more important things than that. I am sure your employer will agree with me.
If things get too bad and you don't rest you will end up on bed rest in hospital.
I am so sorry about your bereavements. It is hard to lose someone close. Think how proud your Grand parents would be that you are bringing another little soul into the world. Our children and grandchildren are the true paths to immortality. Think of them in better times and try and see past their recent suffering. They were so much more than just that.
2007-10-29 06:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had a car wreck when she was pregnant with my brother. She was 34 weeks pregnant when it happened. She went into false labor for a week then the doctor let her have him at 35 weeks.
If you are having brownish pink discharge it could be a sign that your baby is trying to come on out. You said you have been to the doctor since the accident? If not you need to go. However rest with your feet up and try not to move as much as possible. Stay off your feet. Get plenty of rest. Best wishes and take care of you and your baby. Sorry to hear about all the stress you have been under.
2007-10-29 06:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by mommy to three 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry all that you are going through. I cant image how you feel. WOw girl have you been through a lot or what. I would definitely go to the doctor just in case you may have ruptured something when you had the accident .. just to be on the safe side. Take good care of that baby and be careful cause if you are feeling stressed most likely the baby is too. I was depressed when i was pregnant with my daughter and when she was born, she seemed really quiet and conservative. She did not actuall talk until 6-8 months. My mom was on my case about all that was happening. I was just 20years old. Its hard but try to cope as much as you can. DOnt punish the baby . YOu are not over reacting. Its just, something you have to get through. JUst take it one day at a time.
2007-10-29 06:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear. I am so sorry you are going through so much!! You should call or go into the doctor. It isn't crazy to want to get "checked up on" after you've had a car accident!!! But if you can, try to get someone else to drive you there (you may have to, with a damaged car). Try to let other people do things for you in the next few weeks. The less stress the better for both you and the baby. Take it easy and just take care of you and your little ones. Don't worry about the doctors and nurses thinking you're overly concerned. I am sure they are used to tons of people with tons of questions. Good luck and take care!!!
2007-10-29 06:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your losses. This has been a difficult time for you. Your doctors should be aware of all the stress you've been experiencing, and if you've hit a deer. . . well, don't worry about calling the doctor's office after all these traumatic events. My doctors office told me to call any time for any reason! That's what they are there for. You are not overracting!
Actually, what's wrong with taking at bath at this point in pregnancy? I am almost 33 weeks, and I just took one this morning. My doctors say it isfine and relaxing as long as I can safely get in and out of the bathtub. The baby seems to like it, too. It's very calming and soothing.
2007-10-29 06:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Piaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo sorry for you losses and I pray that things get better. You are not acting unreasonable in any way. I would definetely say that going to the doctor is a must, just to be safe. However, you need to try to stay as calm & stress free as possible. A good thing is that at 35 weeks even if you were to go into labor the baby would normally be perfectly fine. Your baby will be fine, dont worry! :) Good luck <3
2007-10-29 06:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Its just me <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and stand and sit well. Don't slump. When you stand don't let your belly just push straight out and your back curve. This does not help. When you sleep lie on your side, get a hard pillow and put it either underneath you belly OR have your lower leg sraight and bend your upper leg to rest on it. This stops the weight of your belly curving your hips round and pulling at your lower back. Do not carry heavy things. Bend at the knees to pick things up. Once you have had the baby try to strengthen your tummy muscles (but not for a month or two). Good luck, there are all sorts of random aches that do pass! Look after your back, I had a bad one between kids and it was awful. It did go away when I made a point of doing all the above!
2016-05-26 00:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, you are not overreacting. Please don't panic, everything is probably just fine, but you do need to go to your doctor, OBGYN or Emergency RIGHT AWAY. They're going to want to check on both you and the baby ASAP.
Go Now. If there is a problem, time may be critical.
ETA: I just noticed your edit. I'm so sorry. I was with my Mom when she passed away from Cancer last November, so I know how painful that is. I don't regret being there, but seeing someone take thier last breath, well, it's excruciating.
2007-10-29 06:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by lapis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋