Why do many modern women want to be only wives and mothers even when they are encouraged by their families ?

Question

Why they don't want to pursue careers even when they can easily get them and their family members will support the decisions? I am not blaming or judging them I just want to understand their mindsets.

Baba Yaga you have not read my question properly. There is nothing wrong in being wife and mother. I just wanted to know the reason though.

Answer 1

Being a SAHM is a career. It's different because you don't learn from a school, you learn from life experiences, and you don't get payed with money, you get payed with the joy of raising children [assuming that's what you want to do, that wouldn't be pay for someone like me, lol].

Most SAHMs work just as much or more as people with careers [although some ARE lazy, I won't deny that]. For most, it's simply what they want to do in life. Raise a family and maintain the house.

With that being said, I could never remain happy and be a SAHM at the same time, but that's just personal preference.

I'm sure there are some SAHMs that feel obligated to be a SAHM to follow "traditional values", but most that I have met have done it by choice.

Answer 2

Your going to get negative responses just because of the way you phrased your question. "only wives and mothers" comes off sounding like being a mother or a wife is an meaningless occupation. I personally like working part time and being at home with my kids most of the day and week. Yes I have a degree, and no I do not feel like I am wasting it by being a mother. The time and attention I give my children cannot compare to any salary. After all, we are raising the future here. We are the present.

Answer 3

Most of the time these women grew up in family's where the mother was a stay at home mom and so they believe that they should follow in those same foot steps. If you mean older women that have the chance to go back to school and make something better for their family, I believe that they are so used to the way things are that they dont think they would be able to succeed in a college atmosphere and plus with all the bills that they already have when will they have time to spend time with their families and how will they be able to afford after school/work care for their kids.

Answer 4

Perhaps some women don't want a career. They want to stay at home. You should do what makes you happy and what you want to do in life, whether you can do something else or not. I could be a stay at home mom and would be supported by my family in my decision, but that's not what I want to do with my life, so I pursue my career. For some women it's just the opposite and that's ok, too.

Answer 5

....Because we are still women. Many of us still find pleasure and happiness in running a household and raising children. "Liberation" can't change our essential natures as nurturers. This is why, even now, the overwhelming majority of people caring for babies are women. We enjoy it and find it meaningful, often more meaningful than other types of paid employment.

The idea that women were just too dumb in the past to realize that they could be "more than" moms is silly. Everyone just assumed that once a woman had children, she should plan to raise them herself, which meant that she shouldn't work for pay also.

What's silly is to assume that all women, in every culture, and for 2 million years, have been forced into a role they detest. We have always had the option of education and paid work, but the majority of us chose motherhood *instead*. And, from what I see now, many of us always will. The opportunity to be a "pseudo-man" is not very enticing compared to cuddiling with a new baby.

After the fall of communist Russia, women were *thrilled* to be allowed to stay home. Everyone saw it as barbaric that the women couldn't concentrate on being wives and mothers, and there literally were cheers of relief when they stopped forcing women to work. Forcing everyone to fit the same mold was seen as a huge failure - something the Swedes realize now, as millions of women refuse to use the daycare centers for children under 2 years old.

Answer 6

becasue being a wife, mother, and career woman can be too much for some. and if they don't *have* to juggle all 3, why force them to?? *some* women also make so little that paying for day care while they are at work would take the entirety of their paycheck & then some--so for them it's not an economic feasibility.

it's a perfectly viable choice, imo.
as is working.

Answer 7

To me its just a another choice. They feel they are helping their families more by staying home as an unpaid worker. I agree some are lazy but not all.

I would never have wanted that - I would not have the career I have now if I had stopped out to have children.

Answer 8

If a woman wants to be a wife and a mother, it is good to want this. If a woman wants a career, her family will suffer, and her respect for you will suffer. Women can do a lot, but it is stressful for a wife to carry the role of care taker, and home-maker, and provider. If you want a wonderful family I would jump at the chance to marry a woman that had family values in the forefront of her mind, and not the selfish notion of a career first. You can't have the best of both worlds and which would you like to have suffer, her career or your family? They both can't win.

Answer 9

My mindset is like this: I never tell and never told my family my moves, heck when I came back from Jordan with my husband they had no idea I was even going to get married. The thing is I make up my own mind as to what I want to do.

Answer 10

Being a wife and mother is great but I would think they would like to get some sort of degree just in case they had to support themselves someday.