i HATE MY 17 YEAR OLD BROTHER!!!?

Question

i seriously do hate him, hes just annoyed me so much now. heres a list of what he does,

keeps on saying he wants to kill me. - this is a joke (i hope) but its not very funny and i really really dont like it.

says im a phyco and im mental

says i smell, when i dont, and whenever i spray a body spray or deodrant he says im wierd and says why do i spray so much- when i dont

calls my friends names, ( calls my best friend, fat and pig features, when shes really pretty and thin)
calls all my other friends wierdos, i dont say anthing about his friends.
he told my freind to shut up.
his friends annoy me
keeps coming into my room and when i tell him to get out he doesnt.
hits n kicks me
i tell my mum or dad about it, and they tell him off but he never listens to them.
Always horrible when we are both home alone#



what should i do to make him stop!!


im 15 btw.


:( thanks...xxx

Answer 1

At this age, elder siblings will always annoy us one way or another... I'm the eldest in my family, and I find my younger brother annoying too until I felt like killing him at times...

But that doesn't change the fact that he is your elder brother... Try to talk to him about it, that you had been very miserable every time he does all those things... In return, ask him why he did it too... Is it because of what you had done?

If talking doesn't work, ignore him and act as if he doesn't exist... He will soon find it hard to be ignored and might thought of changing for good... ^_^

I hope all goes well with you, and even if things don't change, be tolerant with him... I believe in the future both of you will get along better...

Answer 2

If you go to a public school and you have a friend who learns martial arts, learn either a hold or something to keep your brother still. Next time he does anything to you, put him in a hold, and shout your feelings at him (basically what you wrote on YA). Then ignore him for the rest of the week. That should make him at least a bit guilty and what he's putting you through, if he IS 17. If he doesn't, he's truly evil =). He'll soften up a bit after this. Why are you telling your mom???? You want him to torture your mom??? Get him his own house, and leave him alone (you could also get him anger management classes)

Answer 3

hate 17 year brother

Answer 4

Listen, you really don't hate your brother you just dislike how he's treating you and has allowed his friends to treat you. The best thing is to not let him see that it bothers you. When he comes at you with things just say to him is that the best you can do? Better yet instead of telling him that you hate him, tell him that you love him and you love him so much. Do it especially when his friends are around. Start giving him compliments instead of blowing up when he gets on your last nerve. It just seems that he is trying to get your attention for a reason that he's not saying. The comments that he makes about your friend more than likely he likes your friend and instead of him saying he's making fun of her and calling her names. Guys seem to mature a lot slower than females.

Answer 5

He is behaving typically the way people do who have low self-esteem. They push someone lower than they are so they don't feel so bad. Sad, huh?

The kid needs some help, but you are not going to be the one to get it for him. If you can steer clear, do so. Try to avoid him. Try to read up about bullying so you know how to react. Go to the website I have listed below to get some insight into bullies. There are others too. Google info about bullying.

Would your parents get him some counseling? If he actually hurts you, call the police! It's possible he is more than just a bully but is actually suffering from a mental illness, you know. Sorry you are having such a hard time. Good luck.

Answer 6

17 year old boys can be obnoxious jerks. I believe it has to do with their raging hormones.

Most of what you mention sounds typical for big brother attitude.

Hopefully he is going away to college and you only have a year to go before you get some peace.

Trust me, someday things will change and you may even like him.

For now, just ignore him, don't answer him back when he name calls and avoid him as much as possible. If he quits getting a reaction out of you he may give up. Bullies, and obnoxious brothers, only pick on those that they CAN upset. Change your attitude and his behaviour MIGHT change too.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You've got one angry brother. Your parents are trying to deal with the situation, but it's beyond their capacity. Your brother, I think, needs professional help, an evaluation of his brain, because there could be something chemically wrong. You could write Dr. Phil, because he has resources that could help your brother. Go to his website, I think it's DrPhil.com. But talk to your parents, and try to get them to understand that this is something they need to look into. Good luck with this. I hope your parents try to find some help for him. In the meantime, tell yourself that he's not well, that he needs help, and that you will try really hard to not hate him so much. I know this is very difficult, but try to cope as best you can and keep talking to your parents, until they get the message that they need to do something more than tell him off.

Answer 8

hi looks like you have the same problems as many do with brothers or sisters...Your 15 and it may get worse but trust me your in the same boat as so many other brothers and sisters .You really dont hate your brother YOU just dont like what he does..In time you will learn your brother will be there for you through life right now hes just being a little stinker.You didnt say how old he was BUT im sure all the things he does now is just his way of showing you attention.( Brothers are like that ) :) .......Best thing to do is when he starts picking on you treat him with kindness and show him it doesnt bother you what he says . If you ignore what he does he will stop right now you react to what he does and that is EXACTLY what he wants!Hang in there and i promise you it gets better as time goes on .......

Answer 9

I think you are going through what most brothers and sisters go through--HATRED OF EACH OTHER! It's hard to believe but things will get better pretty soon. With luck he will move out or join the military when he's eighteen. Right now he's "baiting you" to get the reactions you are giving him. Try ignoring him for a while.

Answer 10

The VERY BEST thing you can do is to ignore your brother!
I know you've probably heard it all before, but it's the truth.
I have a little brother, too.
He was a pain in the middle of the crack of my big, round @ss when we were in high school.
It occured to me one day NOT to let him know that he irritated me.
So...I trained myself not to even acknowledge him
When he would say something stupid, I would not respond.
When he would do something stupid, I would not respond.
When he needed my help to do something, I would not respond.
I trained myself NOT to roll my eyes.
I trained myself NOT to breathe hard.
I trained myself NOT to even look at him.
I treated him like he didn't even exist.
Now...I'm not gonna lie to you; when yur brother determines that he cannot get to you so easily, he will double his efforts.
It will be rough-going for a while.
BUT...one day...he will leave you alone.
However, when he does, maintain your stoicism and DO NOT pay him any atttention.
I remember it well; during the middle of one of my brother's heavy-handed taunts, he lost his footing, fell down the basement steps, and tore the ligaments in his ankle.
My mom and dad ran to rescue him.
He was at the bottom of the steps crying like a big baby-*****.
I did not get up from the dinner table and the only time I opened my mouth was to put another piece of food in it!
Later that evening, when everyone returned home from the hospital, my dad actually yelled at me real hard for not showing any compassion for my brother.
I wanted to tell my dad that I was fresh-out of any feeling for my brother and that this wasn't my fault.
He had taunted all of the compassion out of me down through the years.
Now that we are grown, our relationship is OK...but nothing to brag about.
I know he feels guilty about the way he treated me...and yet he's too stubborn to apologize.