What should I do?

Question

So here it is every year at y job I put on two shows at the elementary school and the high school they are dance shows that require a lot of time and preparation. I also work with special needs very hyper and defiant but these shows mean a lot to them and has changed the lives of many of them it gives them self-confidence and something to look forward to. Last year a kid told me if it wasn't for the show he would not of passed his classes. The only reason he worked so hard is he didn't want to loose his spot and if he failed he would get kicked out the show. I am now four weeks pregnant and I am due in July. These shows take place in June my husband came up to me this morning and pleaded with me not to do them he says it's to much stress I have never had a baby and I don't know how my body is going to act and I need to relax. While I agree my job as a dance drama teacher is give a show and I really don't want to disappoint the kids and staff. I have thought of all types of ways to do the show but at the end of the day no matter who helps me most of the responsibility is mine. Last year they also got rid of my assistant. What should I do?

Answer 1

You have to worry about yourself and your baby. There will be another show but what happens if the bady is harmed or lost. Be true to yourself and listen to hubbie.

Answer 2

You should do it! It sounds like you really enjoy it and want to do it, and it's very obvious that the impact it has on the kids is very important to you as well. This is your first child so you aren't sure how you will feel physically, that's normal... I'm assuming it's also your husband's first time dealing with a pregancy, so his response is also at least understandable. The fact is, for a normal, healthy preganancy, it's very healthy to stay active during your pregnancy, and this activity could give you the excercise you need. Your body will tell you when it's time to take a break, or when you're pushing too hard. My sister-in-law who just a month ago came off of Army active-duty, and is due in a month, worked actively up until her seventh month. My wife also worked the whole way through her pregancy. Just make sure to check with your doctor, to get the final thumbs up, but if they say you're healthy enough, then you should do it and enjoy it, because after baby comes that's when life will really change. Best wishes to you & your husband and your new family.

Answer 3

I think that you should keep working. Talk to your doctor about it and make sure that it's okay, but if you have a normal pregnancy, there is no reason not to continue. Honestly, the boredom and sendentary nature of not working could be worse for you, at least mentally. I worked at my retail job until a week before I gave birth to my first child and did just fine. Although it was rather tiring near the end!! Just be sure to follow the clues your body gives you and the advice of your doctor. If you are way too tired be sure to nap, if you start to feel ill in any way, that'd be time to take a break as well. Good luck to you! And ask your doctor's advice about continuing the show. It sounds to me like you're doing a wonderful thing for these kids, but if for some reason you cannot continue, remember that you have to do the best for YOUR kid first.

Answer 4

Pregnant women have been working for ages and I don't think, unless your doc says different, it's going to cause any problems. Your husband should be commended for caring about you and your baby, cause many don't. Let him go to the doc with you next time. He can ask questions to ease his concern and get the reassurance from him he needs. It's great what you are doing for these kids but you can't put the welfare of your baby at risk. Do what you can and if the school wants your good work to continue, they can get you help until things get back to normal. Congrats on the little one to be and take care of both of you.