My girlfriend/partner and I have been dating for the past 2 years, we are both 45 & professionals/executives. We recently bought a house together to live in, and will sell our houses. She feels as we are moving in together we should be getting married. I'm more interested in making sure we have a mature and well balanced relationship, and I don't want to get engaged so "marriage" ends up defining what we are supposed to be. Both 2.5-3 yrs separated/divorced. We both feel as our lives are busy, living together is the next very logical step in our long term relationship. I have 2 teenage children, one living with me full time. She has no children. We have 2 dogs. I'd like to be able to help her understand my perspective, and define what she is in our live-in relationship, before engagement. I have suggested professional advise, which she has rejected. Any suggestions?
2007-10-29 00:12:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is 2007! why are you buying a house together if you have such different ideas? surely you have talked about this before?
be honest and tell her you are not ready for marriage, but you love her and are showing your commitment by living with her.
lots of people live together these days!
2007-10-29 00:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by blue_lagoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no healthy reason for 2 people to live together if they are not married.
Look at what message you are sending your kids.
Call herself your "mistress", or your "uncommitted sexual partner", or your "girly toy".
Either start making wedding plans NOW, or end the relationship. I guarantee you she's already picking out a wedding dress, even if she doesn't tell you about it.
2007-10-29 07:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should call her your sole mate or life partner if your not ready your not ready I suggest you marry her after your teenage child moves out seeing it could be a bit awkward for the child seeing another women with his dad but if he likes her by all means marry her as soon as your ready
2007-10-29 07:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your loving companion, as you are to her. Just don't wait too long before you make a commitment. It becomes harder as time goes by, and you may lose her because of your reluctance to commit.
2007-10-29 07:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋