I have this friend that I have known since we were first born. Her and I grew up together, her mother married my uncle. Well I try to maintain the friendship but every now and then I have to cut her off because she gets upset if I don't loan her any money. She has a man in her life and they have two kids. He is always in between jobs and she never works. They both don't have an education. I've always encouraged her to go back to school or at least work now that her children are school age but nothing. Now she won't talk to me because I wouldn't send her money through western union for her kids. How do I handle this friendship anymore? Just let it go? I know I have never gotton along with her boyfriend and I think he plays a big part in all of this, especially when he sees her and I getting close again but I can't take this behavior anymore. What do I do? Let her go and wait until she contacts me again and then start all over? Or just cut all ties forever?
2007-10-28 21:59:06 · 6 answers · asked by LC 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont think you can let it go even if you wanted to... in the same time you cant help someone if he/she doesnt want to help himself... i think you have to stop sending money to her... keep in touch with her to give advise... if she doesnt want to have contact with you unless you send money, then, she is not a friend anymore. from your question i can say that anyone would be more than lucky to have you as friend.
2007-10-28 22:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by tariqsous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I'd have to say let it go! I'd tell her that too! Let her know that you can not continue to support her and her children! It's time for her to grow up and take responsibility herself! It's not your problem, it's hers! Just let her know that you're tired of what's been going and that you can't do it anymore, but that you'll be there for her when she gets her act together! I know that sounds harsh, but we know it's the truth! She'll figure it out at some point and if she doesn't then just know it's her loss and not yours! You've done a lot for her already I take it, don't let her take advantage, if she really wants you in her life then she'll come back for you, hopefully with her head on straight!
2007-10-28 22:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Amazing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think letting her go until she contacts you is a good idea. I don't think you have to feel guilty over this. If neither of them are working something is wrong. If seeing her kids do without is not enough motivation to change, I don't know what is.
2007-10-28 22:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to cut your ties with her. If she does not want anything but money from you, then she is just using you anyway.
2007-10-28 22:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help children education. maintain this friendship. childhood friendship is true one. childhood friend understood u fully.
2007-10-28 22:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by vep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her lots of space and NO money....
2007-10-28 22:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋