or do you just let me lie here and freeze, and make me ask for one??
2007-10-28 21:48:50 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, and then you wrap your arms around them to make sure they stay warm.
2007-10-28 21:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that you're asking this because a guy didn't get you a blanket when you were feeling cold. And you're either wondering if he really loves you, or you're using this to prove to him that he should have got you a blanket.
Let's put it simply. We guys are pretty basic creatures. Generally, we are good at dealing with things - inanimate objects. It's a cliche, but things like map reading and anything mechanical is our specialty. What we are not so good at is the emotional, empathy, people stuff. Fortunately, women are often excellent at that. I'm not being sexist, and yes I am generalising, but by and large that's true.
Another generalisation is that it seems that women seem to be more sensitive to the cold than guys. I've lost count of the number of times I've been asked by my partner or a colleague "Is it cold in here or is it me?" and I've felt fine. My partner's a great one for turning up the thermostat a couple of notches "because it's a bit chilly" when I'm already sweating due to the warmth.
Last point: men are rubbish at taking hints. If you say "It's a bit chilly" you may get an acknowledgement but no action. If you say "It's a bit chilly - would you get me a blanket please sweetheart?" he'll get a blanket. If you're lucky, saying "I'm cold" will work, but there are no guarantees. As I've already said, we're basic creatures, if you want something ask for it. Hints don't work. We're normally happy to oblige.
Here's my answer to your question. If your guy didn't get you a blanket, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He may not have been aware of you being cold. He may have a better tolerance of lower temperatures. He may not have been empathising. If you'd said "I'm cold" he may have been able to figure out that you needed something, but you really can't rely on us just picking up on what you need psychically - just ask! :)
2007-10-28 22:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Was it an oversight or were they being a jerk? I think that is the bigger question.
It is easy for people to overlook things, especially if they are distracted or are an absent-minded person. If they haven't been in many relationships, they might be distracted with their own nervousness.
On the other hand, some people are just selfish and only think of themselves.
I don't have enough information to answer your question, but I can suggest that you tell them how you feel. If they do not respond positively by being more attentive to you, and it seems to be a pattern of him not being attentive to your needs, then he may not love you, he may just want you.
Do not make assumptions based on one incident. Look for a pattern. And talk to him. You may find that he just needs to learn to be a better mate.
Good luck. :)
2007-10-28 21:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by WisTex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should get that person a blanket when they're cold. But this shouldn't be like a measure of love. Sometimes people just don't notice these things - especially men. In that case, you'd have to ask. Men can be quite dense and oblivious sometimes.
2007-10-28 21:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by callieRach 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What do u expect? If u love someone u don't even wait for him or her to ask for a blanket u just get it .
2007-10-28 21:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by masters506 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh sure I do.
I got u that blanket. but now Im freezing.
now, do u just let me lie here and freeze and make me ask for one too?
2007-10-28 22:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tsarey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them a blanket! Quick! They can't freeze
2007-10-28 21:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dreaming♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do just that very thing quite often. When Hubby falls asleep in the chair he often wakes up cold, so if I see he's nodded off I throw a blanket over him.
2007-10-28 21:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course. If you love someone, you needn't wait for them to ask for a blanket if they are feeling cold. They should do the same for you.
2007-10-28 21:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by ChameleonGirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Haha.. it depends on the situation though... I don't even have to love the person to make me ask whether they need a blanket or not... but again, it depends on the situation ^^
2007-10-28 21:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by sakura_ch4n 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I loved you and you were cold I'd get you a blanket. No questions asked.
If I loved you and you were hungry I'd give you my last bite of food.
If I loved you and you were in need of money I'd give you my last dollar.
If you were thirsty, though, I'd still keep my last beer for myself.
Love has its limits.
2007-10-28 21:57:26 · answer #11 · answered by Warren D 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋