Whatever you views are on the statistics of who commits more abuse are (you are entitled to those views whether they are supported by factual evidence or not) - in the end does it REALLY matter who does it more?
When women do it - it's wrong.
When men do it - it's wrong.
Do two wrongs make a right?
2007-10-28 19:25:04 · 15 answers · asked by Twilight 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Of course you're right. It's wrong, no matter how you slice it.
2007-10-28 19:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by wendy g 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs do not make a right, however if you are quoting staistics that women are just as violent as men, you are more than likely using the conflict tactic scales. This was a study in which both men and women were asked if they were violent. This study does not differentiate between a push and a knife stab for example. A common scenario in dv in which a woman is battered:
Man comes home angry for whatever reason. Dinner is nto done or kids are loud or whatever trigger sets him off (could be no trigger - he just wants to be abusive and controlling). He yel;ls at the woman. She tells him to leave her alone. He towers over top of her and she pushes him away from her due to appearance of threat (this has happened to her before). So according to the CTS tests we have violence - woman 1 man 0. He gets angry due to her pushing him away from her and he punches her and she pushes him away again or slaps him. So now we have woman 2 man 1. Does not matter to some that the man has been more violent, just that the woman has two counts of violence against her. This continues with the man using his size to intimidate and threaten and the woman will likely gain several "strikes" of violence against her with the man getting none. yet anyone looking at this scenario will see that the man is abusive and the woman just wants the abuse to stop.
Fix the wrong with the man being the primary agressor and the woman being agressive will fix itself. Typically women are the nurturers in a relationship. You will find women who are primary aggressors, however this is in the minority.
2007-10-30 03:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. In the end, what matters is the damage DV causes- physical, emotional, psychological, social, and spiritual, upon not only the victim but the entire family- and society in general.
EDIT: Rockpunk: it isn't ALWAYS "learned" behavior. Some people are violent that came from non-violent homes. You're not taking into account people with mental disorders that may play a part. Some of those are genetic. I can't believe you were a DV counselor. By the way, what were your credentials and why are you no longer practicing? Just curious.
2007-10-28 19:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Two wrongs may equal "justice" of a sort, but not any kind of proper or good justice. And NEVER a good thing -- "Well, my punch just cancelled out your thrown toaster, so we're good."
Sadly, in this day and age, I can imagine 2 people, both from wildly dysfunctional-type backgrounds, thinking that it's OK as long as it's evenly distributed. Thank God none of them are on here arguing with us.
Two wrongs never make a right.
2007-10-29 03:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by herfinator 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with u,if such few more cases comes up.people will start thinking that live in realtion ship is legalised and this will encourage more couples to stay with such a realtion ship.and as far as i see there is some body or the other going to be exploited in such a relation ship,only married couple can have the disputes setteled legally,how do the police station settel any matter realted to live in realtion ship.and what if the women in a live in relation ship is missusing the law to gain some profit.we need to develope a seperate code of law for this type of relationship.but still iam against any kind of voilance against women.
2016-05-25 23:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by charmaine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meaning this is not the multiplication of intergers whereas two negatives equal a positive. This is real life and two wrongs equal one wrong. Now one of those wrongs were to be corrected that would be another story of does a wrong and a right make a wrong or a right? The answer depends upon the evidence of the right and the wrong which one has more meaning, which one carries more merit according to what the person is actually looking for.
2007-10-28 20:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Oh, I absolutely agree. Of course violent behavior is wrong - absolutely and ALWAYS. What irks me, though, is the misleading nature of the results of those self-disclosure surveys. Are people always honest? Du-uh I won't bother answering my own rhetorical question. Even then...Look. I admit it. I once absolutely lost all semblance of self-control and THREW A TOWEL at an ex-boyfriend. It wasn't a WET towel...it was a dry towel but that's beside the point. I was young (not like now). I was feisty (not like now). And I was angry (not like now).
I NEVER DID ANYTHING SO WILD AND CRAZY EVER AGAIN.
Now, if I were honest in answering a self-disclosure survey I would meet the criteria for 'violent person'. How many other dry-towel-throwers are there out there. I shudder to think...
Ya. Right.
2007-10-28 20:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 5⤋
I'm in full agreement with your opinion that it is wrong regardless of who is doing it more. What I am fed up of though, is being told that men are causing 95% of the violence when not only do studies (not done by MRA's) as well as experience show me otherwise.
2007-10-28 21:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Absolutely not. If it's wrong for one person, it's wrong for them all. This is a fallacy generally employed by Fox News.
2007-10-29 03:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, like if someone named Billy Wrong and Susie Wrong have a baby and name it Right, then it's name would be Right Wrong. And two Wrongs would have made a Right.
Just give me the thumbs-downs now. I can take 'em.
2007-10-28 19:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Steve-O 5 · 8⤊ 3⤋