I wouldn't want to be lied to, but it seems she thinks I'm trying to start trouble. I genuinely worry about her. There is so much more I would love to tell her, but it would be pointless since she thinks he's really trying to work through their problems. I love her (as a sis), but I can't continue the friendship if I have to be dishonest every time I see her. I guess I have horrible friend skills. Any advice would be great!
2007-10-28 18:56:28 · 4 answers · asked by kristi_wilson81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just to let everyone know. I'm NOT the other woman.
2007-10-28 20:10:11 · update #1
I think you should just tell her that you are her friend and you want her to be happy and you are trying to just help her out.
Just tell her that she can take it or leave it (the things u tell her) and if she gets mad then its probably because deep down she knows its true. No a TRUE friend would tell the other friend if anything was fishy!
So like I said I would just say
Look I want to tell you this because I care, and I want the best for you... if you dont like what I have to say thats fine but dont use it against me.
2007-10-28 19:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the truth does hurt, I wouldn't want to be lied to either. However it seems like everyone has become so accustomed to only listening to things they want to hear and being lied to.
So when someone exposes the truth(s) to them, they are in denial about it and they refuse to accept it.
Anyways you have to understand your friends perspective and why she's pretty pissed right now. It's understandable, I mean I would be a little irritated if I had my friend come up to me and tell me my husband was playing me for a fool. In fact my first initial reaction would be YOU are messing with him, and you're trying to ruin our marriage etc.
That may not be the case, but it is a first reaction without a second thought.
Anyways I think that you should just make amends with her and let her know you're sorry for ever saying anything to her about it. It's just you thought as her friend it was sort of your "duty" to say something. Then let her know that you will mind your own business from now on, and you won't say anything else.
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2007-10-29 02:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I reckon you did the right thing, either he'll change his ways (unlikely) or he'll get caught in the future (quite likely) and when the poo hits the fan your friend will know then that you tried to warn her, until then you just have to wait, be her friend, let the matter go.
2007-10-29 02:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by OzDonna 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Her relationship is none of your business. You have no right to say anything to her about any of it. It's her life.
2007-10-29 01:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋