My boyfriend of 13 years, and father of my children is incarcerated and I believe another woman is visiting him. I can't prove it, so he just denys it, I really want to know for sure!
2007-10-28 18:49:42 · 13 answers · asked by tiantay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All inmates have to register visitors. They must register before they enter the visiting room for security purposes. The problem with you finding out who they are is that it is personal informaiton to the inmate and law enforcement. However, if you feel you know this person, some prisons have, in the front reception area, a log that is sometimes used. Often this log is open and out there. Chances are though that if you are caught summarily going through it you may be stopped. I suggest, and I know this is hard to do, that if you do not trust this person that much that you reconsider you relationship. Reason being is that if you feel that you cannot trust this person when he is incarcerated how in the world are you going to trust him when he is free? I assume that there may be a history possibly creating this mistrust. Step back and clearly look at this situation. If you cant trust him when he is in prison, imagine how you are going to handle this relationship when he is out. Good luck.
2007-10-28 18:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kerrick C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way legal, and why bother? He already has shown you he is not to be trusted by breaking the law. OK, he is the father of your children, but is he getting rehabilitated? Or will he get out and give you more children, until he returns to jail? You'll know if he has other visitors just by the way he treats you. Just get on with your life, make better choices and if you stick with him, be sure it is for love and not just to have a man in your life. What about her? Maybe there is no 'her', but again, that will show itself in time. There is an old saying: give them enough rope they will hang themselves. Don't nag him, just be happy, be loving, and be on guard. Truth will out itself over time. Have your life in order so you can stay or leave, your choice. Not his. But watching over a man, is like being his mother. Give him space and let it all fall into place. True love doesn't have to watch someone to see how they are behaving. Trust him until you see you can't and then have your plan in place. Good luck.
2007-10-28 18:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is NOT public information, and the prison will not give you that kind of information. The only way to know for sure is to start making surprise visits and your bound to catch him if he's up to no good.
Most prison's have a visiting log that you have to sign upon arrival, you can skim over it and see if he's had a visit that day.
2007-10-28 19:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to ask the jail? Mybe if you can go see him everyday, you might beable to see who this other woman is. That is if there is another woman. But I would try & ask the jail first. I don't know if they can give out that information. I hope he isn't for you and your children.
2007-10-28 18:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of public record, the names of people who enter any prison, whether they be a guest or a visitor. Simply enquire at the front desk. And tell them why. I'm sure you'll find a sympathetic ear.
2007-10-28 18:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I work at a jail and we do not disclose that information to the public. It is a privacy issue and we don't do it mainly because there are problems like this.
2007-10-28 18:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do i know if he's cheating on you......
He's 13 and a father. Wow... there kid...
How old are you???
Best advice i can give you is to talk to him and don't get pregnant again. not to be insulting but if your boy is thirteen you are too young to have a child.
2007-10-28 18:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on visiting day,,,wait ,to see who comes to visit
2007-10-28 18:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by 4 strings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to sign in and state who you are seeing then you should be able to find out some how (possibly thru an attorney). Ask and see
2007-10-28 18:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you visit him everytime that visits are allowed? You can prove him wrong if he's lying by being there.
2007-10-28 18:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋