How can I make friends?

Question

I spend way too much time to myself and on the computer. How can I make friends? Everytime I try to get together with people nobody ever wants to hang out because they're "busy" or don't have any money. I moved a couple months ago to a new city and I still don't have any friends I can hang out with, but to be honest it's been this way for years. How can I make friends to go out with so I don't have to go to movies or hang out by myself all the time?

Answer 1

my advise would be to join some kind of activities or groups that you like. maybe you can take up a course or class of your interest. that will get you interacting with real ppl. or maybe some religious, charitable groups etc. There's plenty or associations or groups out there for you to choose. If all fails, you can always register at one of those speed dating thingy...G'Luck.

Answer 2

Nathan,
That's always a challenge, but the rewards are worth it. Start by being the one who initiates conversation. You will run into some people who just won't let you into their group. Fear causes that. Don't worry about it, just talk to other people around. Change is hard for everyone, so be patient. If you are in school, here are my suggestions:

If there are after school activities on campus, join them. Try your favorite first, but if none really appeal to you, just join school government, debate club, or something you think you can do, or with people you think you will enjoy. Keep going for the entire school year, don't quit just because you don't make friends right away.

If you are in school, or already working, here are some more ideas:
Take classes from one of those Learning Exchange (or similarly named) places that teach classes for one night or a few nights. Their catalogs are often found in grocery stores, or near newspaper stands. Those classes are for just the things you will enjoy. That will help you find friends in your new community that enjoy the same things you do. Don't worry about being in your age group there. You want to get to know people of all ages.

Getting involved in neighborhood issues or local politics, even if you aren't political, can get you energized, and beginning to make new friends. Have fun with it.

Answer 3

Here's a Christian answer since that is what I am, and who I am. If you are a Christian-hater, then consider respectfully yourself warned. No one is forcing you to read my answer:

To make friends you must be a friendly person. You don't need to be a Christian to be friendly. A friendly person does the following:

They don't lie.

They don't steal.

They don't murder.

They don't covet.

They are careful to listen to what you are saying.

They are careful when they judge, making sure that they are not judging in hypocrisy.

They are careful with what they say, making sure not to insult you (not offend, but not insult). To insult someone is to say something to them to make them feel pain for your mere pleasure and in defiance of God.

They are patient and don't try and get rid of you or rush you out of their laziness or thinking they are too upper class to be around you.

They are careful about what they get angry about and try not to show their annoyance when you annoy them. For example, they make sure not to say something that might embarrass you in front of others like, "Your hair looks stupid."

They offer you help if they can give it and especially if it is not that inconvenient. For example if a stranger comes to your door, obviously thirsty, and he asks for some water, you go and get some cup you don't use (in case the person has T.B.) and fill it with some cool or warm water for them to drink, as opposed to saying, "You can drink from my hose" and then shutting the door on them. It would be especially unfriendly if you knew the water from your hose tasted bad.

If you want to make good friends, then you should make sure that you are a Christian (which you can find out how to do via the link in my profile hopefully). As a Christian with eternal life you should go to a church that teaches the correct way to get eternal life and which has people that are doing a good job serving God, as opposed to being a disorganized and bumbling people, and though may be growing in size, are doing more harm then good by what they are doing.

Find a church to go to where the people are friendly of course, and plenty of people for you to get to know and help. Also make sure you like the music, because it's very important that you can worship God without being depressed. If you can't find a church with music you like, see if any of the best ones are willing to play music you like or just avoid the music part of the services.

You can also make friends by helping the poor and needy, like the homeless or orphans. Don't do it for man's praise but do it for God.

If you are good at certain subjects such as math or science, you can post newspaper ads or fliers in schools offering your help for a low price or for free for people who need help with those subjects.

Other things to make sure about is that you are dressed in such a way that won't embarrass anyone hanging around you. Make sure your style of dress isn't wild, flamboyant, outdated, too plain, or sloppy. Also make sure your breath does not smell bad, and drink plenty of water or chew gum that uses sugar or xylitol and not the artificial sweeteners which can harm you. Make sure your shoes aren't smelly too.

You can also draw like-minded people to you by wearing clothes that make a statement, literally. For example, "You can get eternal life now, ask me how" or "Jesus rules" and wear a cross. Someone may bless you for your boldness and then ask them if they are a Christian, when they became one if they are, and what church they attend. Hopefully you can get to know them later.

You may not ever make any close friends here on Earth before you die, but if you have eternal life, you will have a never ending supply of close friends one day. Be patient and pray.

Answer 4

get to know people around your neighbourhood, why not try an MMORPG