I have been married about a year now and its all new to me being married. But here's the ? me and my husband might have sex once a week. I want it all the time lol. But he is always like im tired, im not in the mood, or tomorrow night. And i get so upset sometimes because i do everything i can to make him happy, and he says that it is just a guy thing and he cant have sex all the time like that. But we might only have it once a week. So Is this Normal?
2007-10-28 16:32:43 · 15 answers · asked by Babyxgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, once a week would be awesome. It would be nice if we were always 100% compatible with our mates, but life just isn't always like that. Look into seeing a sex therapist, with or with out him, to see what else you can try. Good luck!
2007-10-28 16:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 15 years almost and we are 39 and 40. We have more sex than that. If we only have it once a week it might be because we both put in a 6 or 7 day work week that week. Has he always been like this?
2007-10-29 00:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep welcome to being married.. u hear all the time that "men want sex all the time" the truth is most dont.. especially the older they get.. but u'll never ever hear a man admit to not wanting sex infront of other men, because its a "male ego pride " thing..
Alot of men usually have a decline in sex drive do to either, stress, fatigue, low testosterone levels, age, or erectile disfunctions.
Remember that men usually peak between the ages of 17 and 22.. some men want it all time well into their golden ages, but alot of men have a drop in sex drive the older they get..
So depending on your husband age, depending on if he's stressed out or fatigued these could be genuine reasons why his sex drive is lower.. dont take it to heart, it doesnt mean theres something wrong with you, or that u did or didnt do something.. just some men dont need it as often as others.. It sux, but with alot of those men, they can go into sex funks, then go into sex over drive, so just try and figure out what his issue is.. but dont push him, because alot of men tend to feel like less of a man for not satisfying their wife when you push and then they get a complex about that..
And if i were u, id tell him that if its only going to be once a week sex, then he damn well better make the earth move that night lol..
2007-10-28 23:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are but NO, NO, NO. I am 50 and would love to have sex every day, twice a day. But I also know I don't have enough time. You might try to start earlier in the evening. If he is working a lot, it is a little more understandable. Talk to him and tell him you are horny and he needs to take care of you. You don't care if he just lays there and lets you do what you need to but he needs to get a shower and get his butt in bed. If he is having trouble now, what is going to happen in ten or twenty years when a mans libido naturally slows down? You might try a toy for yourself while he is at work. This will help you control the urges until it is time for him to take over.
2007-10-28 23:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? If so, then yes, it's very normal! If not, and if before you got married he used to want to do it more often, then something isn't right. It could be that he feels he doesn't need to try as much anymore, or that he feels things aren't that interesting and doesn't want to put in the effort. It could be that he's actually tired. As for not having sex all the time...most healthy guys I know are up for it almost every day.
2007-10-28 23:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. The average, I read recently, is twice a week but that changes once you have children to probably once a week. Newly weds that you are have sex all the time but talk to your husband and see what you can work out - I am sure he can't be tired on his days off.
2007-10-28 23:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be past 80! I'm in my 50's and could still do it at least once a day and alot more most days.Send him to the Doctor for some of those little blue pills.If he is under 50 get a divorce quick!
2007-10-28 23:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh the honeymoon is over. find different ways to get him excited. Dress up in sexy outfit, buy some porn, get some massage oils, get creative. Once a week when he is not in the mood do something like light your room up with candles, play soft music have some massage oils and give him a massage. You would be surprised how this will get him in the mood. I had the same problem with my husband and now I find myself being the one who wants the "raincheck!" Good luck!!
2007-10-28 23:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes thats normal and not everyone wants it as much as another.. you can get a toy for those off days..also he might even like it and use it on you... normal is really what makes you both happy.. you have to meet in the middle somewhere.. good luck
2007-10-28 23:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he may very well be tired. My husband and I just do it when we can and not worry about the times we can't because I know we still love eachother. IT just makes the other times better :)
2007-10-28 23:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋