Harrasing Husband?

Question

Help!

I am 10 week pregnant. Since my 6th week, i have been sick like hell. My doctor put me on diclectin and that helped. But i have a husband who is clearly out of his mind. He continously keeps telling me that i am not eating enough protein or enough food to help the baby. The sight of food makes me sick. I took him to my doctor and the doctor told him to leave me alone and let me eat whatever my heart desires. But he is just not ready to accept the doctors words. He harrases me and tells me how i donot eat enough . I can barely look a t foood and eat it. Declectin has helped and i do eat, but meat makes me sick and i cannnot even look at it. My husband just does not understand the level of sickness a pregnant women faces. He forces me to take my multivitamins and each time i do, I throw up. Can some please help me with any suggestions how to aske this guy to BACK OFF??? I am under a lot of stress as a result of this and worried that this would effect the bby

Answer 1

I believe i would leave him for a few days. He sounds too controlling.

Answer 2

Oh man that has to really be a pain. Tell your husband to calm down because you actually don't need to really put on very much weight in the beginning. Your baby will be just fine, it is normal to at first not be able to consume much food and even to loose weight. But when you reach the second trimester you will start to feel much better and begin to be able to not be so grossed out by food or literally sick. Plus most of your weight is supposed to be gained in the third trimester anyway. If your baby doesn't get enough nutrients, which it doesn't need much being so tiny, it will take it from your body. Plus my doctor said in all actuality you don't need to eat for two. Just 200 calories more a day in the later part of pregnancy is all.

Tell him that what he is doing isn't helping, that it's actually putting more stress on you which can elevate your condition. Also tell him, and this is the truth, that pregnant women who are under high amounts of emotional and/or physical stress are much more likely to miscarry or deliver prematurely. That will knock him off your back.

And about the vitamins, I was the very same way. My doctor gave me chewable prenatal vitamins and I didn't throw up at all. Ask for the chewable prenatal vitamins, they aren't harsh on your stomach.

Congratulations on your baby, they are a handful but boy are they worth it. They are the most precious little things in the universe. Get ready for months without enough sleep, but also the happiest moments of your life. You are very blessed and good luck.

P.S.
The baby inside you can feel your emotions so when your husband stresses you out or whatever your baby will get upset.

Answer 3

Explain to him that the nuasea you have is a good sign that the pregnancy is progressing normally. Your hormones are adjusting and things are changing to acomadate the baby inside of you. There is no need to worry about the health of the baby being affected by you not eating much. TRY to eat what you can and stay hydrated but dont force yourself...the morning sickness goes away eventually and then you'll start eating like theres no tomorrow...that makes up for all the meals you skipped when you where sick.lol. Also, he is just being protective. Guys getthat way when they know there is really nothing they can do. He just wants you two to be ok...and you will..

Answer 4

Tell your husband that you have stored fat and the baby is eating no matter what. You could pass out, and the baby would still survive. part of why your sick is stress, and Your sickness isn't going to last past your fifth, or sixth month the baby will be fine. It's the stress that could harm you and the baby. So tell him that the stress he is putting on you can cause you to loose the baby, He needs to read up on the Internet about stress while a woman is pregnant. Its not healthy at all.

Answer 5

Personally I'd ignore my husband and continue doing what I'm doing, and just follow up with my doctor to make sure everything is fine with baby. He has no idea what you're going through and clearly isn't responding to *your* needs. It's one thing to want what's best for the baby, it's another thing entirely when he puts that ahead of your needs. Just make sure he knows that you're doing everything you can to take care of yourself, and that him stressing you out about what you're eating is worse for the baby than any type of dietary change that you could make at this point.

Good luck and bless you. Encourage him to go out with some friends and give you some space, it sounds like you might need it, poor thing :(

Answer 6

Hi sweetie first off Congratulations :)
Ok it sounds to me we have an over protected Daddy on our hands :) this is Natural But It can get very over bearing when you are pregnant..
Have you tried saying to your Hubby That you have already eaten? and have a plate on the side board washed up! this will bide you some time, you could also ask your hubby to read some books.. or you could try these sites listed here for you and your hubby, try to involve hubby more, this might help him settle down some :)

Answer 7

you need to just ignore him and eat when you can. doesnt sound like he will ever understand how sick you feel so why bother trying to make him understand. some guys just dont get it. listen to your doctor not him. tell him he needs to back off and he is only making things harder. your sickness will eventually ease up its not gonna be like that forever and your baby will be fine.

Answer 8

Try seeing if you can get a second doctor's opinion, the reassurance from another professional may just ease his conscience.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear that my husband did that to me too.. I just began to ignore him... i know its hard but don't stress yourself by arguing it will just make you more sick trust me i know... I threw up until the moment i delivered literally i threw up on the delivery table so i know all about it... Just ignore him... he'll get the hint.

Answer 10

Let him know the more stress and grief he causes you, the more you get sick, the less the baby gets.

Listen to your body, it knows what it needs.

Answer 11

Tell him, and this is a fact,
Your baby is going to get what it needs from YOUR body.
If you do not take your prenatal vitamins, you will be the one suffering because the baby is going to take YOUR nutrition.
Your baby will be fine, it gets what it needs!