Ok... so I guess my friends all turned into hoochies. They been cheating... and getting busted... divorces all over the place...
My husband - I can tell - is starting to think maybe I would partake in such things since these are the women I hang with. These are girls I have known for 3 or 4 times longer than him. I dunno why they are doing what they are doing - but I have no desire to go tramping around...
He makes comments like "Oh - you want to hang out with the whore again huh?" - and "Why are all your friends sluts?"
Should I cut them off and end up friendless? It's not like I can go out and make new friends(I dont Wanna! wahhh) over-night. Me and these girls been through a lot together... since high school... even middle school.
2007-10-28 15:48:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is going to make me nuts... I have this one girl I think is "cracking up" practically - He husband is working over-seas and won't contact her for weeks... and she is depressed... and a nice guy came along. It sounds bad, but I kinda see where she is coming from. She thinks her husband is with another woman abroad... / Then the other one... Her husband is horrible to her but she fels she can't leave unless she has someone to "go to" so the poor girl is looking for a new man while she still married because she would rather be married to jerk-head than be single. Yah - I know she has a little co-dependancy issue there - she should just leave - I told her over and over... but the can't bring herself to. Agh! It's like... I can see myself totally doing the same thing if I was in their shoes - but I am NOT - my husband is with me and is nice . Bleh....
2007-10-29 04:54:13 · update #1
Make new friends.
2007-10-28 15:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well you need to decide what is important your husband or your friends just put yourself in his shoes what if he had friends like yours and he was hanging out with them you would think the same right? I'm not saying that you are doing what they are doing and its nothing wrong with been friends with them but make hanging with them a limit and sometimes in life change can be a good thing don't lose yor husband because of your friends.they will be the first to call you stupid for not being there for your husband or the first to pick him up a whore don't have any limit girlfriend
2007-10-28 16:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't like a few of my friends for similar reasons, but he also wouldn't ever tell me to give them up. Once you're out of school it's so hard to make new friends and actually have meaningful friendships. If you end up friendless it will lead to you being unhappy because no matter how great your relationship is with your hubby it can't meet all the needs these friends of yours are able to. He's just not a female and girls need female friends! As long as both you and he are secure in your relationship and you aren't "helping" your friends cheat, there shouldn't be a problem.
2007-10-28 16:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good friends are hard to keep. And so are good spouses. It becomes a trust issue. If you want your husband to trust you when you are out with the girls, why don't you ask him to come out the next time so he can see for himself. If it's a good night then he might be OK next time.
Put it this way...if your husband was doing the exact same thing hanging out with his friends...and his buddies are out cheating on their wives...would you not say anything?
2007-10-28 16:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by stonehands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, your husband is trying to tell you, politely, that he's concerned about your friends behaviors and has every right to be concerned about yours. No offense but it reminds me of the old saying, "When you lay with the dogs, expect to get flees." In other words, don't be surprised when other people start to look at you with the same eyes they see your friends in.
How important is your marriage to you? Honestly, friends will come and go throughout your lifetime, even some of the ones you went through a lot with. If you're willing to put them before your spouse, expect turbulence in your home life. If I were in your shoes, I'd tell your friends to get their acts together or leave you out of it.
Good luck!
2007-10-28 16:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was the other way around, would you like it? Put yourself in your husbands place and you may understand that it is probably best to stay away from them. They aren't showing many qualities of good character. Get some new friends and keep these as acquantincies.
2007-10-28 16:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my boyfriend's friends and siblings are all cheaters. I wonder about how he can condone it if he doesn't do it. It bothers me a lot. I can kind of understand about how your hubby feels. But I can also understand that these have been your friends for a long time and their mistakes should not get you in trouble. Hard to say. Just don't be around them if they are with the guy that is not their husband. Tell them you don't like it and don't want to be involved. Then go on with your friendship. If that isn't good enough for your husband then its his problem.
2007-10-28 15:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by hair princess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, your husband has it right when he calls them sluts. You basically called them that yourself.
He also is right in being a bit uncomfortable about things. Peer pressure is a *****, even in adults.
You really should make sure your husband knows you also consider these friends sluts and YOU do not approve of what they have done.
Be honest with yourself...how would you feel if things were the other way around and these were his friends? Would you be ok with going out with a bunch of guys that had done that to their wives?
If you go out with one of these girls. Be respectful of the feelings your hubby will have. Do everything you can to make him comfortable with the situation. You would want the same respect from him wouldn't you?
2007-10-28 16:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship: Husband/Baby?
2016-11-12 04:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are setting an example for you...an example of a person who you don't want to be! Tell your husband that and reassure him of how much you love him. Maybe your good influence will rub off on your friends. Maybe they'll come to you and ask why you're having such a wonderful life/marriage/husband.
My hubby makes comments about my friends, but I have to shrug it off and have a laugh because that's who they are and as long as I'm not like them (I don't want to be)...it's all good.
2007-10-28 16:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by art14ist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends keep cheating on their husbands!?
2014-12-09 18:19:29 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋