We were married nine years.
2007-10-28 15:41:02 · 13 answers · asked by Tabonie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tabonie, my husband and I just got back from grocery shopping and upon reading your question...I'm thinking, I never even stopped to think that little things like these are the ones we sometimes miss the most. No, your question is not s.t.u.p.i.d. at all. When we're hurting, every little thing reminds us of the person we love or we lost. A scent, a song, a place, a street... I truly wish that you stop hurting very, very soon. Nine years is a long time and we get used to things so fast. Time will help you heal, Tabonie. Be strong, have faith, you'll find happiness again. Just give it some time.
2007-10-28 15:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you're coming from! When I broke up with my husband, I couldn't even buy the same brands of stuff, cos it brought back so many memories of happier times. I couldn't watch the same TV shows, or listen to the same songs, cos everything reminded me of him and how much pain I was in over losing him. Eventually I got over it.
Now, another man has walked out on me and I'm going through it again. I automatically pick up the foods I knew he liked, and cry as I put them back on the shelf, knowing that I don't have him to shop for anymore. I must look like a fool in the supermarket, crying over a packet of chips!
It'll get better for you, time will help you deal with it, accept it, and move on. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it will get easier. Try to make grocery shopping an adventure, a positive event, where you don't have to be limited by what your spouse wanted to eat, try to see it as a freedom you now have, to buy and eat whatever you want. Treat yourself!
Good luck, hope you feel better soon.
2007-10-28 15:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by lonecabbage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 9 yrs of marriage is very long and having to get a divorce is a very painful process if u are the victim ... mayb u both always shopped togather and cooked togather.... and u always bought his stuff for him and his favourite food for him...
tt y now when u shop alone it hurts... all this brings baq memories when u use to be togather...it doesnt sound stupid its quite natural ...
the only thing to do now is to change ur point of view ... cool down and str a brand new lifestyle... it will take time to heal the pain but u have to be strong...
im sure u ll meet some1 worthy of u... try to change ur schedule mayb add more activities so u are not alone and dun constantly think of him....
BeSt of LuCk & Take Care !! :)
2007-10-28 20:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of lonesome to grocery shop on your own, for only yourself. Not only is it hard to make tasty food for one - most of it goes bad before you can eat it - but there are all of these happy families running around in the isles to remind you of what you have lost.
Don't worry.... it will get better. You need to take some time to focus on you, and eventually things will even out - including the pain of grocery shopping. Stay strong!
2007-10-28 15:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by peachfuzz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid at all. I felt the same way for awhile after I got divorced. It bites cooking for one! Also, you see happy couples shopping together and it reminds you of what you had. If you're like me, you'd try to prepare his favorite things and now you're having to rethink how you shop.
Give it time. As cliche as that sounds, time really does have a way of healing. Look at it this way, you can finally buy the flavor of ice cream you like!
2007-10-28 16:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, when you're getting a divorce, everything hurts! You've spent a lot of time buying groceries with pleasing your husband in mind. Now it's time to please yourself and have those things you've been craving but didn't buy because he didn't like them. Give it time; it will pass and life will go on. It will eventually get even better because you'll learn to enjoy the freedom.
2007-10-28 15:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound stupid but it does get easier,and harder! After awhile you may go for months and not think about it and then it will hit you.The only way I know to get over it is get back in the game,meet someone else and be happy.Good luck.(no it hasn't worked for me)
2007-10-28 15:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you were buying for two before and now only buying for one. don't get into another relationship too fast but consider getting a dog or cat and shop for the animal and you and that may make it a little better. You will get used to it in time, just as you had to get used to shopping for you both before.
2007-10-28 15:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh! So am not alone in feeling this way. I cry over small things that my wife and i did together. And my wife shared nothing more with me except for dining out, partying and watching films. So going out at the same places to unwind is more of a stress to me.
Thanks for the question. i thought i only felt that way.
2007-10-28 16:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by protege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt if you shop for houses?
2007-10-28 15:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋