Child visitation rights ok so i was with my ex for 3 yrs. we are now seperated never legally married and had 2

Question

kids..hes never met our baby who is 5 months old. we seperated when i was 2-3 months pregnant. we are now in the process of getting child support. we had our first court at wich he asked for a dna test on both of my kids.. :( he knows damn well theyre his kids but his gf whom he was cheating on me and was the reason we broke up. keeps telling him theyre probably not his children ...but wte im fine with doing the dna test this way he will not ever have a doubt in his mind. the deal is im terrified of him takin my children for a whole weekend. my daughters 2 yr old and my son i a baby. he hasnt seen my daughter since april and that was like for 30 min he hadnt seen her before that for about 3 months. he is a convicted felon (assault with a deadly weapon.) hes on probation ..i can prove that but how do i prove hes a chronic drug abuser and a alcoholic. he also lives 2hr. away from my town & its a diff. state. what can i do to limit these visitations and how much will a judge allow.

Answer 1

Two things:

1) A lawyer, which you presumably have, should make short work of someone like your ex. If you don't have a lawyer, get one. It will be worth every penny when you consider what the cost is to your children if you don't get one.

2) Courts generally lean towards the mother of the children, if at all possible.

If your ex wants a DNA test, he probably does not want to claim that these kids are his. It should be fairly easy to talk him into NOT taking care of them. Why would he want custody? That means he'd actually have to DO something, which it doesn't sound like he wants to.

Don't worry so much about your ex. Concentrate on your kids, get a lawyer, and let the lawyer worry about your ex. Just focus all your energies on being a good mom.

Answer 2

These are questions for your lawyer. you can fight the custody and visitation, this will drag it on for a while. I am almost in the same situation as you. Mine was convicted of making drugs, and i dont trust him at all with my kids. Its a hard thing to go through. Fight him in court as much as you can. You might be able to get him to just have them like 4 hours a week to start out with so they can get used to him since they are so young, i would argue that it would be tramatic for them, espically the youngest, whom he has never met, to go and stay with him for two whole days. good luck.

Answer 3

You need an attorney. They know what to ask for and how to ask for it. If he's requested DNA he's probably filed something saying he's not the father. You may be able tog et no unsupervised visitation until that is resolved. You will need to prove he's on probation, and any proof you have that he uses drugs, etc.

Answer 4

did you know that he was convicted of assult with a deadly weapon before you had children with him ? and you cant do anything really .... i am tryin to answer this without seeming like i am being rude but (and this may tick some off BUT) if he is all of these things what makes you think he is going to pay child support and maybe when she says they are not his kids say ... "ya know what , your right " and GIVE UP THE MONEY . i wouldnt want to let him take my kids either but you chose him as the father . just lay off with the child support issues and maybe he will go away . hope this helped .

Answer 5

because he is a convicted felon and lives in another state, that alone should be enough to ask for supervised visits only and he may not even want to see the children, and his girl friend may not want him seeing them for fear he may decide to leave her for you. Get a good attorney and stick it to him.

Answer 6

Hey long time no here. do you remember me stranger? You probably don't But remember you use to call me Bill, foolia? LOL and we use to talk on the phone a little while back? well any ways, i remember you stopped talking to me after you got back with your man and I told you that it's not going to work out after all the sh** you see him do to you. and now I'm surprised to see what your going threw. well Hey, I'm sorry to see you in this situation but when he was doing this to you in the first place why would you think you can make it work when you got back with him? well I guess you could only learn from your actions I guess. I still remember looking on your my space and seeing your page trying to send the message to him with that circle song playing on it. REMEMBER?!! LOL Hey, I have to let you know, you didn't have to stop being friends with me but it's cool. But don't feel bad about what he does because you sould think he's better off not to be dealing with then him hurting your kids up frunt if he's claming that sh** about not his. What kind of sh** is that. Just fight him for what he has to take care of and don't worry what he does. It's better off any ways. You just making yourself misreable with him any ways. worry more about your kids then what he's doing, the hell with him. sounds like a punk if he's deniying his kids like that. You know Me as a father, My X is keeping me from seeing my son and It realy kills me inside and she knows it. and she uses my son as a wopon torwds me.But in your situation, I can't see how a man will do something like that to his kids but just let him be and get what you need to take care on what you have in front of you and stop dwelling on what he does and accept it cuzz it's better off leaving him behind you. Your leaving misrable just dealling with his bullsh*t. If you don't trust him with your kids on being visited by him, then get supervised visitation but you have to know some one to do that on watching him be with the kids. well sorry to see you go thew this and long time no hear from you but I guess I'll catch you some other time stranger. Nice seeing you again LOL latez.

Answer 7

You simply have to go to court and have your concerns aired in court. Hopefully you have a lawyer.