I've come a long way from the horrors of life, that I had to endure. And I am proud and self-sufficient. But some people juge as being conceited because I act like I dont need anyone. But its true, I dont need people - just a few good friends will do.
What do you think?
2007-10-28 15:03:08 · 23 answers · asked by Mimza 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To blackcat: I know I'm right for doing so. There's just so many people with low self-esteem out there that when they meet me they call me vain.
2007-10-28 15:11:48 · update #1
Good for you. I feel like you have to like yourself before you can truely like anyone else. It's really surprizing too just how many people really don't like themselves.
2007-10-28 15:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Admiration" of yourself in your accomplishments is a good way to increase your self esteem. In this way, you are able to face the world in a positive view. This must enable you to be a modest model to other people, and a good moral and morale supplier to the people around you. And in this way, you can manage to get respect from others.
"Pride" however is a different concept from "admiration." Setting aside people from your joyous glory is something not to be bragged about. If you believe that you don't need others in your way of life (just a few good friends), then expect the controversy. Remember that not a single person can live alone.
If you wish to erase this "being conceited concept" of yours, why don't you try to be a part of other people's success, or try to share your success as a motivation of others' hidden successes. Instead of "admiring yourself and separating the rest of the world from that admiration," don't you think it's better to be "admiring yourself and being admired by others as well?"
2007-10-28 15:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Cairo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Admire-- to regard with approval,respect or satisfaction.
if this is what you are doing then yes it is ok. but if you are talking about crawling out of the ashes of childhood and deeming yourself better than others then no it isn't ok.
Admiration usually is an emotion we feel for someone else so I can see where people would think you are full of yourself. But to respect who you are, approve of yourself and are satified with the kind of person you are then I guess you can admire away! not needing anyone but a few good friends leads me to think you are hardened by life... not admirable, just able to survive...ultimately it is your choice to feel however you want to as long as you don't expect others to feel the same way.
2007-10-28 19:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by mein1962 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True self-esteem comes from achievement, and you have gained that - good for you! Now, you must learn to temper your admiration for yourself with empathy for others. Everyone is at a different place in their lives. As they struggle to build good lives for themselves, they don't need others who have "made it" strutting like peacocks in front of them. Go ahead and feel proud of yourself - then have the humility not to shove it in other people's faces. Maybe if you make a point of giving someone else a hand up (as opposed to a hand-out) now and then, it will help you to keep your perspective.
2007-10-28 15:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Admiring yourself and "not needing people" are two different things. You can be proud of yourself for something while still feeling that you have imperfections and trying to correct them. If you thought you were perfect, that would be incorrect and wrong. But being happy with yourself is totally ok.
2007-10-28 15:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same boat as you. Yes, you should feel good about yourself, its easy to go overboard AND this can actually hurt you ....big time.
Be a good friend, bring out the very best in other people. Really keep trying to bring out the best in everyone. Know that you can't be good in EVERYTHING...but you've come along way.
We all need other people in our lives to survive, so be kind, and honest.
2007-10-28 15:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by ~~~Tara~~~ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with having pride in yourself. Healthy self-esteem's a good thing, but there's a fine line between healthy self-esteem and *********/arrogance.
It's best to keep your pride to yourself to a certain extent and not brag. Bragging's not cool.
2007-10-28 15:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're awesome. People look at you as being conceited because they are lacking the confidence that you have. Again, you're awesome, I bow to you.
2007-10-28 15:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by synda72 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask your friends, they should tell you the truth. Then ask yourself the same question. I think its good to be independant, which is what you seem you be. Jus don't go over board being cocky or conceited. Add up everything you've been through and it'll sum to "I HAVE DAMN GOOD REASON TO BE WHO I AM". Keep it up.
2007-10-28 15:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by What!?Read Between the lines? 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
if you go over board with it, ys. but otherwise no. your confident. nothings wrong with that. high self-esteem is way better than low.
2007-10-28 15:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by thejunglefaerie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋